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pre-interaction awareness stage
- stage of becoming aware of attraction
- NO interaction yet
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initiation stage
- first contact with other person
- asking/answering questions
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exploration stage
in depth interaction
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intensification stage
- dependence for self-confirmtion
- shared activities
- time spent
- intimate space/ contact
- personalized laguage
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intimacy stage
- primary confirmation for yourself
- highly personalized/ synchronized verbals and nonverbals
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turmoil stage
- conflict
- less mutual acceptance
- tense communication
- unclear def. of relationship
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stagnation stage
- loss of vitality
- taking for granted
- communication & contact decline
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de-intensification
- hardly interacting
- distance
- decreased dependence
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individualization
lives as individuals v couple
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separation stage
intentional decision to cease relationship
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post-interaction stage
lasting effects of relationship on self
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relational dialectics
- interpersonal relationships constantly changing rther than stable due to push-pull factors:
- integration-separation (autonomy v connection)
- stability-change (predictability v novelty)
- expression-privacy (openess v closedness)
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interpersonal conflict
struggle occuring when people cannot figure out a way to meet each other's needs
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constructive conflict
- cooperation
- dealing w/ differences
- new insights
- strengthens relationship
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destructive conflict
- lack of cooperaion
- weakens relationship
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pseudoconflict
lack of understanding
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simple conflict
difference in ides, definittions, perceptions, goals
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ego conflict
- person issues
- attacks on self esteem
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symbolic displacement
- superficial argument
- deeper issue
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serial arguments
repeat arguments
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irresolvable conflict
impossible to resolve
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interpersonal power
- ability to influence in direction of own desires
- getting what you want from another person
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complementary relationship
willingly cede power to one anohter
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symmetrical relationship
- both dominate for control
- or one give up power to avoid decison making
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parallel relationship
power is continually shifting
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assertive communication
takes listeners and own thoughts, feelings, and rights, into account
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agressive communication
self serving
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non confrontational conflict management
me
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confrontational
- manipulate by threat and blame
- win-lose approach
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cooperative confict management
win-win
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conflict management skills
- manage emotions
- manage information
- manage goals
- manage problem
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