ch 14

seven main principles determin wether a marriage will work

• establishing love maps
• nurturing fondness and admiration
• turning toward each other instead of away
• letting your partner influence you
• solving solvable conflicts
• overcoming gridlock
• creating shared meaning

grandparent preforms what was considered proper and prescribbed, strong interest in children but no child rearing advice

informal and playful

benevolent but interaction was infrequent