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Seeking...
Forgiveness from the victim
asssuming reasonable blame for transgressing against another and desiring to repair any damge done to that person or relationship
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Seeking...
Self-Forgiveness
a willingness to abandon self-resentment in the face of one's own acknowledged objective wrong, while fostering compassion, generosity, and love toward oneself
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Seeking...
Forgiveness from God
recieving God's forgiveness apparently effects one's ability to forgive others which, in turn, effects psychological wel-being
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Self forgiving
accept responsibility for their actions and resolve their negative feelings
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Condoners
resolve their negative feelings by not taking responsibilities for their actions
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Self-condemning
accept responsibility for their actions while prolonging intense negative feelings
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Tagney's Shame
Natural and Global
Egocentric response to wrong doing. All about personal bad character, not the action
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Tagney's Guilt
Natural and focused
focus on behavior and reparation
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McMinn's Brokenness
Global and Divine
- people are flawed
- people are loved and valued by God
- hope of transformation
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Narramore's Sorrow
- Focus on harm done, seek reparation
- dependence n God and no less self worth
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Why do you think an all-knowing God encourages His children to pray
build a relationship
gain understanding
strengthen trust
recieving care
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What are some characteristics of "bad" prayer and of "good" prayer
Bad prayer is self centered, all about getting and taking
Prayer is not an appeal but a response
Good Prayer is focused on God's nature and will according to His character
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What are some of the psychological benefits of prayer?
humbling our hearts
accutely aware of ourt needs and more so for others
petitionary prayer as a means of grace by which we become more sensitized to the presence of God
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Points of procedure for perceptions of God among persons with mental retardation
pictures created to represent individuals view of God
54 pictures taken from different faiths narrowed down to 25 through...
pictures were shown to people of different faiths and their level of cognitive development was tested and matched with pictures most chosen. this is how the 25 were chosen and put into categories of formal operational pictures and preoperational pictures
those with severe or profound mental retardation picked pictures resembling people and chose more preoperational picteus while those with mild retardation did not make a reliable distinction between the two
the fact that no person chose none of the pictures whows that each person had a meaningful perception of God
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argue for the idea that those with severe mental retardation can have a vital relationship with God
interesting how the amount of personification of God gets high with the mental retardation
easier to love, express emotion, don't have all the junk that we do because they are closer to having a "child like" faith
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If a person with severe mental retardation can have a vital relationship with God, what does this say about God?
He loves each person and meets them where they are at. Nothing can disqualify us from His love or having a relationship with Him
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Granting forgiveness vs. emotional forgiveness
Granting forgiveness: deciding (even if you don't say it aloud) that you will not seek reveng and not avoid but will try ( as much as it is up to you) to put the relationship back on the pre-offense footing
Emotional forgiveness: the degree to which you actually feel that you emotions have become less negative and more positive toward the person who offended or harmed you.
** you can grant forgiveness without experiencing emotional forgiveness
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granting forgiveness is not...
forgetting what happened
diminishing the issue
tolerating negative actions
believing everything is "ok"
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why forgive
health: less stress, better immune system
relational: build trust and repair relationship
spiritual: more in line with God's will
**brings freedom and gives you control
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REACH model of forgiveness
- R: recall the hurt (through imagination and discussion)
- E: empathize with (and sympathize with, feel compassion for, and love) the one who hurt you
- A: Give an altruistic gift of forgiveness (unselfish forgiveness)
- C: commit to the forgiveness you experience
- H: hold onto forgiveness when you doubt
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Interfering factors with forgiveness
repeated behavior
not understanding that we also have hurt people and need forgiveness
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Different views of anger
- Musings by Cerling
- -there is a conflict between a Christian (minister's) idea of anger and a psychological. Christians want to deal with anger as a sin and therefore repress it, causing more issues. Instead, anger should be worked through as a natural reaction
- Biblical by Pederson
- -God is angry at injustive and man is made in God's image. Anger is not a sin, but we should leave God to ge vengeance. The fall took a tol on how we should respond to anger. We are to forgive those that offend us, but be angry with the injustice of others
- Misunderstanding: Hower
- - God's angeris always focused on unrighteousness. Made in His image, we also have anger as a natural response to injustice and unrighteousness. There are 3 ways in which anger are mis-expressed:
- a) not using anger to build the brethren
- b) basing anger off of personal expectations
- c) repression of feelings
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ACE model of emotions and ambidextrous emotions
- A: arousal or physiologial activities
- C: cognition
- E: expression
- Ambidextrous emotions:
- - any emotion, from anger to love, has the capacity to be experienced in a manner that is either pleasing or displeasing to God. No emotions is always good or always bad.
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Evil as expressed by ACE model
only God can create. Satan can only take emotions and twist them for bad
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