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What are the seven primary areas involved in maintaining heterosexual romantic relationships?
- 1. Giving advice
- 2. Relationship assurances
- 3. Effective conflict management
- 4. appropriate openness
- 5. Positive demeanor
- 6. Sharing tasks
- 7. Blending socal networks
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Table 8.1 Dimensions of Self-Disclosure
- InformationMany Know....Few Know
- Impersonal/Not Owned....Personal/Owned
- Abstract....Specific
- Ecpectations for SelfLow Risk/Vulnerability....High Risk/Vulnerability
- Expectations for OthersLack of Understanding/Acceptance....High Understanding/Acceptance
- Not Reciprocated....Reciprocated
- May Tell Others....May Not Tell Others
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Explain Self-Disclosure as Catharsis
- Communication Release
- We may have some need to free ourselves from information that is eating away at us, a desire to gt something "off our chest"
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What are the four functions of self-disclosure?
- 1. Catharsis
- 2. The need to be open
- 3. A Communication Strategy
- 4. Manipulation
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Explain Self-Disclosure as "The Need to be Open"
- To lay it on the line, tell it like it is, & reveal ourselves as we really are.
- In real intimacy, we need not weigh & measure our words because our partners can separate what we really mean from what we say skillfully
- Sometimes we deliberately withhold information in order to protect the other person, to avoid a negative reaction, or for personal gain.
- Too little disclosure can be harmful, and so can too much.
- Indiscriminate self-disclosure can cause problems; it can be highly inappropriate.
- Sometimes others are hurt if we tell private information to just anyone.
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Explain Self-Disclosure as a Communication Strategy
- Negotiation of privacy boundaries are important to a couple
- What is shared?
- What is off-limits?
- What is ethical?
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Explain Self-Disclosure as Manipulation
- We can deliberately disclose information to hurt, shock, or embarrass someone.
- We can use instant intimacy as a tool for advancing the relationship
- Effort to quickly move a romantic relationship to what seems to be the intensifying stage
- Strategy of talking to a person you don’t know well as if you did to obtain the behavior characteristic of a friend/intimate -- not limited to romantic relationships
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Define Instant Intimacy
taking advantage of reciprocity norm in order to elicit personal information or services from others.
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Baxter's results in the techniques used by students to acquire information about their relationships. There are seven of them.
- 1. asking third parties
- 2. trial intimacy moves -(through self-disclosures or touch)
- 3. putting yourself down to see how the other will respond
- 4. using hypothetical situations to see hw the other will respond
- 5. asking the partner to do something foryou that shows sacrifice of time and energy
- 6. separting for a while to see how the other responds
- 7. deliberately putting the partner in a situation in which the nature of the relationship will be tested
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Baxter & Wilmot found there are “taboo” topics, what are they? Six total
- Extra-relationship activities
- Talking about rules & expected behavior
- Previous relationships
- Negative self-disclosures
- Topics from the past that could cause problems
- Most frequently reported subject to avoid- relationship itself! Often discussed indirectly or inferred from conversations on other topics.
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Define Predictability
expectation that one’s partner will act consistently in positive ways
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Define Dependability
can rely on other when it counts
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Define Faith
belief that your partner will continue to be responsive & caring in the future.
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Define Trust
- the degree of confidence you deel with you think about the relationship
- composed of three primary perceptons-predictability, dependability, and faith
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