CHFD 3920 Exam 2

Repeatedly violating the basic rights of others or major societal rules or norms

Acts that involve destruction or theft of property, violent crimes, or possession or sale of illegal drugs

The degree to which the family's patterns of interaction promote a sense of intimacy while tolerating the individuality of its members

The excessive need for approval, closeness, and emotional support

The degree of conflictual feelings, including excessive guilt, anxiety, mistrust, resentment, and anger, toward one's parents or significant others

The ability to manage and direct one's own personal affairs without help from family members

A developmental process through which one comes to see oneself as separate and distinct from others within one's relational (family, social, cultural) context. The degree to which individuation has occurred is the degree to which the person no longer experiences himself or herself as fusing with others in a personal relationships

The capacity to establish close, familiar, personally discolsing, and usually loving or affectionate relationships with others

A pattern of negativistic, hostile, or difiant beahvior

Efforts of an individual to separate from the family of origin that appear to have been sucessful but in actuality leave him or her dependent on the family

The achievement of a sense of personal control over one's life while remaining free to act without worrying about what one's family will say or think about one's choice

Acts committed by a young person that would not be considered offenses if committed by an adult( alcohol possession)

The degree to which patterns of interaction in the family are enmeshing and interfere with the abilites of individuals to express their needs for autonomy and individuality

The degree to which patterns of interaction in the family communicate respect, regard, and concern for individual family members and needs for support, responsiveness, and mutual-relatedness are met

Adults with an anxious-ambivalent attachment sytle view others in a relationship as unreliable and unable to commit. They also see their relationship as having less interdependence, trust, and satisfaction when compared to securely attached individuals

Adults with an avoidant attachment style tend to view relationships as less satisfying and intimate compared to securely attached individuals. They are also less trusting of others and tend to avoid getting close to others.

The degree to which one is willing to work for the continuation of a relationship

The unique values and expectations individuals bring to their relationships. These are the standards against which the relationship is judged.

The drawbacks or expenses associated with a particular relationship. They can involve negative aspects of the relationship or rewards sacrificed as a result of engaging in the relationship.

The degree to which one comes to rely on a partner for relationship outcomes

The notion that one's own satisfaction in a relationship depends on the extent to which one's partner is satisfied as wel. Acting in the best interest of the partner becomes a way to obtain benefits for the self

The overarching term used to label the emotions that arise out of rewarding and intimate interactions with another

Interactions with one's partner that have as their goal reaching a consensus regarding common conerns or interests

The balance of rewards and costs available from the relationship

The control of another's behavior through the ability to elicit compliance or resist the other's influence

The benefits exchanged in social relationships. The pleasures, satisfactions, and gratifications a person derives from participating in a relationship

Individuals who are characterized by a secure attachment style have reported positive early family relationships and trusting attitudes toward others. Within their adult partnerhships, these individuals are comfortable getting close to and depending on others. They describe their relationships as being characterized by happiness and trust, and they view themselves as friendly and likable.

The belief that one's partner will not exploit or take unfair advantage of the relationship

Cirtical periods in the development of an intimate relationship during which it either evolves to a deeper level of intimacy and involvement or dissolves

Disagreements over values, behaviors, family strategies, powers, or resources during which one partner seeks to achieve his or her goals at the expense of the other

The unique attributes, traits, and characteristics associated with each individual as a spouse within the marriage

The prescriptions for behavior associated with the social position of a spouse

The complementary expectations for behavior that are superimposed upon the partner as a result of the way an individual performs his or her own role

• The framework of meaning couples establish to define themselves in relation to one another as well as to the outside world. This includes:
• 1. each person's conjugal identity
• 2. the marital themes that organize the couples basic values and beliefs and provide guidelines for beahvior
• 3. each partners' conjugal role, which defines the specific behaviors associated with the social position of a husband or wife

A specific family subsystem comprised of adults from two families of origins who have bonded together to form what they intend to be a stable and long-term cohabiting relationship

The shared prescriptions for behaivor associated with a social position

Disagreements between partners about marital roles and responsibilites

A blueprint for sexual activity; the full rage of motives and behaviors that guide who we act in sexual situations

A symbolic, transactional process that involves creating and sharing meanings through consistent patterns of interaction.

A type of communication feedback that conveys the message to a partner that he or she is valued. Confirmation also involves conveying an enthusiasm for the relationship, an interest in its welfare, and a deep ongoing commitment to making it work.

A message is congruent when all of its different components(verbal/nonverbal, content/ relationship) convey the same meaning

The literal content of a message or what is communicated

The meaning attributed to the metamessages that accompany a literal message. The assignment of meaning to someone's messages is not an objective event but a personal, subjective process. As such, each person assigns meaning to a behavior that may differ from the meaning another would assign

The information that is exchanged when we communicate. Messages carry information at two levels: a content level and a relationship level

Communication about the communication process- a process of talking about the communication process that can lead to greater clarity and the experience of intimacy

The information conveyed in how a message is expressed: The "message" about the message. Metamessages are convyed in the behavior that nonverbal cues that accompany literal messages

Gestures and behaviors that accompany interaction that have sysmbolic value attributed to them

A system of rules for communication within an intimate relationship. The private message system gives the couple's relationship its distinctive quality, helps to organize the strategies that will be needed to face the many tasks and issues that will arise, and influence how couples feel about the relationship

The way in which the information contained in how the content of a message is expressed is used to determine how to interpret the literal content of the message

The tendency for individuals to match the disclosures of others with disclosures of their own that are equally revealing

The process of revealing personal information about the self

The ability of individuals to adapt their manner of communication to various social situations

A part of the communication process that fosters intimacy and manages conflict; the ability to establish realistic communication strategies and rules for interaction, and to exercise the self- control needed to keep the communcation flowing toward desired goals

A pattern of interaction characterized by the willingness of one partner to defer to the other. One partner asserts a position and the other agrees.

The tension between family members that results from competing goals or strategies; like stress, conflict is neither good nor bad, but, rather, signals the need for a readjustment of patterns of interation

The goals that individuals bring to a conflict situation that influence their choice of conflict- managment strategies

Couples who live with the pain of unresolved problems due to minimization or avoidance of conflict and yet are able to remain close and intimate

When a member of a couple initiates contact with the partner through ordinary conversation. The partner can respond to these emotional bids by "turning toward" the partner, "turning away" from the partner, or "turning against" the partner

When the rewards derived from a relationship are proportional to the costs. That is, what partners get out of the relationship is comparable with what they put into it

An "emergency state" resulting from an individual being emotionally and physically overwhelmed by conflict. At the point of flooding, it is impossible for individuals to take in information or respond to others

Patterns of interaction characterized by criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and withdrawal that result in increasing negativity and possibly the end of the relationship

The emotional climate created by successful and happy couples that enables them to override the negative effects that conflict creates in the relationship. PSO can be throught of as a filter that colors how couples remember past events and view new issues

Distinguished by a degree of legitimacy, power refers to an individual's efforts to control the behavior of another or the relationship. Power is legitimized when the authority of one parter is negotiated within the relationship.

A pattern of interaction that maintains a facade of mutuality and harmony that is often devoid of intimacy because the fear of conflict makes the experience of getting close to another too risky to undertake

The expectations that people bring to relationships regarding how role tasks should be either allocated or executed

Patterns of interaction characterized by an unwillingness of either partner to give into the other

Couples who maintain closeness and intimacy by listening respectfully to one another and confirming each other's feelings

Couples who can maintain a sense of connection and intimacy despite bitter arguments characterized by attacks, counterattacks, and fits of rage