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Who viewed passionate love as a kind of dangerous illness?
Ancient Greeks and Romans
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What kind of love was unreliable
Passionate
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The Greek/Roman attitudes on love influenced _____in the middle ages.
Europe
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An attachement between people and is a foundation for a strong love relationship.
Friendship
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____ enjoy each others company and are willing to support and help each other.
Friends
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Love involves:
- Emotional highs and lows
- instability
- passion
- exclusiveness
- sexual desire
ALL ARE UNSTABLE
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Intimacy with, caring for, and commitment to another person.
Love
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Love arises from
- need satisfaction
- sexual attraction
- personal kinship ties
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The meaning of love is_____. Meaning that it can vary according to time, culture, and place
Subjective
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A person who is temperamentally suited to another.
Soul mate
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____is a human, universal, or atleast a near-universal phenomenon.
Romantic Love
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As the US became more industrialized choosong a marriage partner shifted from having a ______basis to a more ____one
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Love can have both a ___state and a ___state
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Love's physical state
lust or sexual arousal
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Love's psychological state
sexual desire
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What is calmer than romantic love
compassionate love
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____emphasizes intimacy with, affection for, and commitment to another person
Compassionate love
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___ couples experience love with the same intimacy and intensity as heterosexual couples
Same sex couples
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Why do same sex couples hide their true feelings?
Public disapproval
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Biochemical theory
Love is a natural high- love results from our biological, chemical, and hormonal makeup.
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Attachement theory
Closeness in a survival need- our primary motivation in life is to be connected with another person for security.
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Wheel theory
The four stages of love- love develops and is maintained through:
- rapport
- self revelation
- mutual dependency
- & Intimacy need fulfillment
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Triangular theory
Emphasizes 3 important elements of love that interact with one another
- Intimacy
- Passion
- Decision/comitment
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3 ways love can go away
- Jealousy
- Unrequitted Love
- Controlling
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Jealousy
Feeling that something threatens your relationship.
A negative response to either a real or imagined threat to a love relationship
(suspicious or reactive)
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Unrequitted love
- love that is not returned
- More attractive rejects less attractive
- Less serious rejects more serious
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Immature Love
Passionate thinking, passionate feeling, and passionate behavior
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Mature love
trustworthy, stable, caring, kind, and someone you actually like
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Lee's 6 kinds of relationships:
Eros
Love of beauty and the physical.
Intense emotional attachement and powerful sexual feelings
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Lee's 6 kinds of relationships:
Mania
Obsessive Love
Strong sexual attraction, emotional intensity, extreme jealousy, and mood swings between ecstasy and despair.
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Lee's 6 kinds of relationships:
Ludus
Playful Love
Casual and carefree love that focuses on sex as recreational and not serious.
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Lee's 6 kinds of relationships:
Storge
Compassionate Love
Affectionate, peaceful, and compassionate kind of love.
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Lee's 6 kinds of relationships:
Agape
Altruistic Love
Unselfish, self-sacrificing Love
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Lee's 6 kinds of relationships:
Pragma
Practical Love
Makes a rational assesment of the potential partners positives and negatives
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Men are jealous about ___, women about ____
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Jealous people are more apt to be ___ people
Insecure
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Closed Courtship
Neither partner sees the other until the day of their wedding
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Open courtship
individual decisions are made about choosing our partners
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Propinquity
filter people on the basis of their nearness to you in time and place
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Endogamy
filter people on the expectaion you marry within your own social group, race, religion, and social class.
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Exogamy
Filter People on their cultural expectations that you marry outside your family group to avoid incest.
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Courtship
process by which a commitment to marriage is developed.
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Dating
process of meeting people socially for the purpose f possibly forming an exclusive long term relationship.
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Recreational Dating
Dating can be and is supposed to be fun
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Companionship
Dating is a way of having friends
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Intimacy and sex
many teens discover sex and sexuality in the course of dating.
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mate selection
A goal for many in dating is to find a mate.
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Socialization
dating helps to socialize us to get along with the opposite sex.
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Status achievement
dating enhances a person's status by showing others that he/she is acceptable, desirable, and grown up.
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open fields
settings in which people do not normally interact and so potential partners are no likely to be met.
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Closed fields
settings in which people are likely to interact and potential partners may meet
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variations of dating
Traditional courtship
Hanging out, hooking up, joined at the hip
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Cohabitation
A couple in an emotional and sexual relationship sharing living quarters without being married
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Reasons for cohabitating
The linus blanket- 1 partner is insecure
Emancipation- to express independence from parents
Convenience- get needs fulfilled w/out marriage
testing- trial marriage
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3 stages of living together
- blending
- nesting
- maintaining
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blending
partners are infatuated with each other
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nesting
a passion subsides, the partners emphasize other grounds for compatibility
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maintaining
the partners establish patterns of stability and traditions
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Sexual Script
set of expectations as to how one should behave in sexual situations
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Mens sexual script-
Men are supposed to be in charge, confident, aggressive, not tender.
Sex is for orgasm; not intimacy
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Women's sexual script
women are expected to be beautiful, loving, nurturing, and accomodating. Not supposed to talk about sex.
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Sexual fantasy
any mental representation of any kind of sexual activity
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Sexual dream
occurs during sleep, without a person's conscious control
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masturbation
self stimuation of the genitals for sexual pleasure resulting in orgasm.
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Celibacy
a person who have no sex
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atypical sexuality
voyeurism, fetishism, exhibitionism, sadamochism, obscene phone calls
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Double standard
premarital nonmarital sex is more acceptable for men than women
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permissiveness with affection
allows premarital or nonmarital sex for both men and women, provided that they have a affectionate and commited relationship
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Permissiveness without affection
allows premarital or nonmarital sex for men and women regardless of the amount of affection
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Excitement phase
physical reaction to erotic stimulation
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Plateau
sexual excitement and muscle tension continue to build
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Orgasm
the most ecstatic for those that experience it. Rythmic concentrations cause the release of neuromuscular tension and feelings of intense pleasure
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resolution phase
when the body returns to its unaroused state
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