Love

  1. Love
    • urge for reciprocal intimacy (thats why not satisfying to love someone that does not love you back)
    • fxn: to keep ppl together (attached)
    • complex dynamic system
  2. 4 stages of attachments (Bowlby)
    • Preattachment
    • Attachment in the making
    • Clear-cut attachment
    • Goal-corrected partnership
  3. Preattachment
    • birth to 6 wks
    • phase of indiscriminating sociability
    • dont respond any differently to their primary care giver (mom) compared to others
  4. Attachment in the making
    • 2-7 months
    • phase of discriminating sociability
    • clearly know their mother and respond differently to her compared to others
    • start developing expectations from their mother
  5. Clear-cut attachment
    • 7-24 months
    • proximity-seeking phase
    • experience stranger anxiety, now show upset over strangers picking them up
    • response system is active under certain situations –> the attachment system is what gets activated
  6. Goal-corrected partnership
    • after 2 yrs
    • phase of reciprocal relationship
    • reduction in the stress when separated from the primary giver
    • mental model developing about self and others
    • attachment system activated when under threat
  7. Infant attachment styles (Ainsworth)
    • Observed 28 Gandan mothers and infants
    • attachment followed Bowlby's sequence
    • individual difference in attachment security
  8. Baltimore Longitudinal Study (Ainsworth)
    • Strange situation: novel environment (motivates exploration and security seeking)
    • Separation activates attachment system
    • Parent seated, baby plays (2)
    • parent returns, greets baby (5,8)
  9. Individual Differences in Attachment Styles
    • Secure
    • Anxious-resistant attachment
    • Avoidant attachment
  10. Secure (65%)
    • caregiver = secured base (share with mom)
    • comforted by their caregiver when distressed
    • actively seeks contact upon reunion
  11. Anxious-resistant attachment (12%)
    • Near mother, still anxious
    • Poverty of exploration
    • Not comforted by reunion
  12. Avoidant attachment (23%)
    • Independent exploration (do not share with mom)
    • Little preference for stranger vs. mom (easily comforted by stranger or their mom... no preference)
    • Active avoidance upon reunion
  13. Secure shows what when they are older?
    • experience much less fear/anxiety
    • Those with secure attachment become confident over time
    • Responding to what their parent is doing
    • They think they are worthy as those with anxious think they are not worthy
  14. Adult Attachment Styles (Hazen, Bartholomew)
    • 3 Behavioral systems (Shaver and Hazen)
    • Adult Attachment (Batholomew)
  15. 3 Behavioral systems (Shaver and Hazen)
    • Attachment system
    • • Feel sad when they leave
    • • Fascination in partner

    • Care-giving system
    • • Responsive of the others needs
    • • Overwhelming feeling to make them happy

    • Mating (sexual reproduction)
    • • Oxytocin released during orgasm = attachment
  16. Fxn of adult love
    • Sexual attraction –> procreation
    • Attachment –>increases parental health, stability and investing in offspring
    • (Advantage for ppl to be together because 2 parents are better than 1, biological perspective on fxn of adult love)
  17. Adult Attachment (Batholomew)
    • 4 Categories of attachment
    • • secure
    • • preoccupied
    • • dismissing
    • • fearful

    • 2 Dimensions
    • View of self -/+ (am i worth, am i not)
    • View of others -/+ (are they lovable, or not)
  18. Secure in adult attachment
    • secure
    • high self value
  19. Preoccupied
    anxious/ambivalent
  20. 2 Avoidant types
    • dismissing
    • faerful
  21. Dismissing
    independent, prefer autonomy
  22. Fearful
    want relationships; fear rejection, mistrust others
Author
maritza
ID
6507
Card Set
Love
Description
Psyc 153 Love Lecture
Updated