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Repression
(Unconsciously) pushing an unpleasant memory into the unconscious mind.
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Suppression
intentionally/consciously trying to forget an unpleasant experience or memory. Includes keeping yourself busy and creating diversions.
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Rationalization
an attempt to substitute "good" reasons for our real reasons. Allows people to disguise from themselves the fact that they acted from motives that conflict with their professed standards.
- sour grapes- belittling what you fail to achieve
- sweet lemons-convincing yourself that you are just as well off without whatever you failed to achieve; being "glad" you lost or failed.
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Projection
the unconscious attribution of your (negative) thoughts and feelings to another person or group.
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Displacement
taking your emotions out on substitute people or objects; a redirection of emotion, in the absence of the object that would satisfy our instinctual urges. Substitute objects are rarely as satisfying as the original objects, but they are less threatening.
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Identification
copying the behavior, beliefs, lifestyle, and other characteristics of somebody else.
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Fantasy
creating a make-believe world (in preference to the actual world).
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Compensation
making up for a personal lack or handicap by doing something else well; highlighting your assets.
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Overcompensation
putting others down, ridiculing people, or acting superior in order to mask your own feelings of inferiority.
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Sublimation
finding acceptable outlets for ID energy; the ability to sublimate our impulses makes possible the ideas, values, attitudes, and activity that characterize the civilized adult human being.
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Substiution
finding unacceptable or illegal outlets for ID energy.
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Procrastination
putting things off
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Withdrawal/Avoidance/Apathy
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Nomadism
inability to stay in one place, in one job, with one relationship; incapable of commitment.
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Negativism
disliking everything mentioned, every possible alternative. Excessive use of sarcasm. people using negativism are highly defensive.
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Denial
refusal to accept the (painful) truth.
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Undoing
trying to atone for bad behavior ... GUILT ... pretending something did not happen.
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Emotional Insulation
not showing feelings; creating an emotional wall around yourself; keeping distance from others.
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Intellectualization
dismissing anxiety by analyzing emotion issues intellectually and converting them to theory rather than action. (Also called isolation or dissociation.)
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Compartmentalization
dividing your life into separate air-tight compartments to avoid facing the inconsistencies. Creating multiple "selves" to fit into opposing situations.
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Reaction-Formation
behaving the opposite of how you really feel over a period of many years; living a lie.
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