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Reciprocity
ideal type of friendship, loyalty, sacrifice, mutual affection and generosity
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Receptivity
Imbalance in giving and recieving
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Associatoin
- Relationships are not out true friendships (clasmates, neighbors, coworkers)
- No great trust or loyalty
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Friendship
- 3 major characteristics: trust, emotional support, sharing of interest
- Mutually productive, mutual positive regard
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Types of Love (6)
- Eros
- Ludus
- Storge
- Pragma
- Mania
- Agape
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Eros
- Beauty and Sexuality
- High on physical atracttiveness
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Ludus
- Entertainment and Excitement
- In control of emotions
- Gets in and out of relationships
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Storge
- Peace and Slowness
- Only looking for companionship
- May develop over time
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Pragma
- Practicality and Tradition
- Seek out individuals who will meet their needs in a practical way
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Mania
- Elation and Depression
- Extreme highs and lows
- Fall in love quickly
- Jealousy, obsessive (dangerous)
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Agape
- Compassion and Selflessness
- Unconditional love
- Spiritual love; offered without concern for personal reward
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Types of Families
- Traditional couples
- Independent
- Seperate
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Traditional Couples
- Share a basic belief system and philosophy about life
- Partners independence must be sacrificed for the good of the relationship
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Independent Couples
Each person has their individual friends, roles overlap, no fear of conflict
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Seperate Couples
- Live together but view their relatonship as a matter of convenience instead of mutual love
- Not a "we"
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Family
Characterized by: defined roles, recognition of responsibility, shared history, shared living space
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Equity Theory
You develop and maintain relationships in which the ratio of rewards to costs is approximately equal to your partners
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Theory of Attraction
People develop relationships on the basis of physical appearence and personality, proximity, and similarity
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Social Exchange Theory
- Based on model of profits and losses
- You will seek and develope relationships where rewards are greater than costs
- Profits = Rewards - Costs
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Relationship Dialectics Theory
- explains what are the conflicting motives that people in relationships often experience
- Autonomy + Connection
- Closedness + Openness
- Novelty + Predictability
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Autonomy + Connection
Desire to remain independent but also to connect to another person as the relationship progresses (already in relationship)
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Closedness + Openness
Conflict between desire to be free vs an exclusive relationship
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Novelty + Predictability
Competing desires for new, exciting experiences vs stability and predictability
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