Chapter 10

  1. Reciprocity
    ideal type of friendship, loyalty, sacrifice, mutual affection and generosity
  2. Receptivity
    Imbalance in giving and recieving
  3. Associatoin
    • Relationships are not out true friendships (clasmates, neighbors, coworkers)
    • No great trust or loyalty
  4. Friendship
    • 3 major characteristics: trust, emotional support, sharing of interest
    • Mutually productive, mutual positive regard
  5. Types of Love (6)
    • Eros
    • Ludus
    • Storge
    • Pragma
    • Mania
    • Agape
  6. Eros
    • Beauty and Sexuality
    • High on physical atracttiveness
  7. Ludus
    • Entertainment and Excitement
    • In control of emotions
    • Gets in and out of relationships
  8. Storge
    • Peace and Slowness
    • Only looking for companionship
    • May develop over time
  9. Pragma
    • Practicality and Tradition
    • Seek out individuals who will meet their needs in a practical way
  10. Mania
    • Elation and Depression
    • Extreme highs and lows
    • Fall in love quickly
    • Jealousy, obsessive (dangerous)
  11. Agape
    • Compassion and Selflessness
    • Unconditional love
    • Spiritual love; offered without concern for personal reward
  12. Types of Families
    • Traditional couples
    • Independent
    • Seperate
  13. Traditional Couples
    • Share a basic belief system and philosophy about life
    • Partners independence must be sacrificed for the good of the relationship
  14. Independent Couples
    Each person has their individual friends, roles overlap, no fear of conflict
  15. Seperate Couples
    • Live together but view their relatonship as a matter of convenience instead of mutual love
    • Not a "we"
  16. Family
    Characterized by: defined roles, recognition of responsibility, shared history, shared living space
  17. Equity Theory
    You develop and maintain relationships in which the ratio of rewards to costs is approximately equal to your partners
  18. Theory of Attraction
    People develop relationships on the basis of physical appearence and personality, proximity, and similarity
  19. Social Exchange Theory
    • Based on model of profits and losses
    • You will seek and develope relationships where rewards are greater than costs
    • Profits = Rewards - Costs
  20. Relationship Dialectics Theory
    • explains what are the conflicting motives that people in relationships often experience
    • Autonomy + Connection
    • Closedness + Openness
    • Novelty + Predictability
  21. Autonomy + Connection
    Desire to remain independent but also to connect to another person as the relationship progresses (already in relationship)
  22. Closedness + Openness
    Conflict between desire to be free vs an exclusive relationship
  23. Novelty + Predictability
    Competing desires for new, exciting experiences vs stability and predictability
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