1. What are the rules for fair fighting?
    • 1) No violence.
    • 2) No fighting after 10pm or after alcohol use.
    • 3) Don't bring up name of former partners.
    • 4) Don't play amateur psychologist.
    • 5) Don't threaten to tell partner's friends, siblings, parents.
    • 6) Don't bring children into the argument as pawns.
  2. What is a long-distance relationship? measuring distance:
    The ability to have face to face interactiosn not necessarily measured in miles.
  3. Who tends to attempt to stick with a long-distance relationships more often?
    Younger couples with less relationship experience.
  4. What is miscegenation?
    Sex between members of differen races which was illegal until 1967.
  5. What percengage of marriages in the late 1990s are interracial?
    2.2%, which is doubled from 1980s.
  6. Which state has the higest rate of interracial marriages?
  7. Which race outmarries the most (by percentage)?
    Asian-Am / Pacific Islander (about 20%)
  8. What percentage of young adults have dated someone of another race?
  9. How many people under the age of 18 are mixed race?
    3 million
  10. What is an intermarriage?
    A marriage between two people of different cultural, religious, racial, or ethnic groups.
  11. Do differences in customs create tensions that decrease relationship satisfaction?
    Absolutely. Yes.
  12. What are the 8 factors that influence the satisfaction of intermarried couples?
  13. 1) Extent of differences in values between the cultural groups involved.
    • 2) Differences in degree of acculturation of each spouse; couples are likely to have more difficulty if one spouse is an immigrant and the other is a 4th generation American.
    • 3) Religious differences in addition to cultural differences.
    • 4) Racial differences; interracial couples most vulnerable to being alienated from both racial groups and may be forced into couple isolation.
    • 5) Sex of the spouse; sex roles intensify certain cultural characteristics.
    • 6) Socioeconomic differences.
    • 7) Familiarity with each other’s cultural context before marriage.
    • 8) Degree of resolution of emotional issues about the intermarriage reached by both families before the wedding.
  14. Traditionally, what counts as cheating?
    Traditionally defined as sexual intercourse.
  15. What are some social reasons why someone cheats?
    • 1) Sex
    • 2) Romantic Love
    • 3) Emotional intimacy.
    • 4) External reasons: gain job promotion, business oppurtunity.
    • 5) Retaliation
    • 6) Boost self-esteem: to prove you're still attractive.
    • 7) Personal growth: satisfy curiousity and grow sexually.
  16. What is Extramarital Sex?
    Sexual relations between a married person and someone other than his/her spouse.
  17. What is conventional adultery?
    Cheating that is kept secret.
  18. What is consensual adultery?
    Extramaritual sex with the knowledge and consent of partner; open relationship.
  19. What proportion of partners are unfaithful?
    1/4 to 1/2.
  20. What is the most common cause of relationship breakups worldwide?
  21. What is jealousy?
    Adverse emotions evoked by threats, real or imagined, to a relationship.
  22. What is envy?
    Adverse emotions evoked by material goods.
  23. What are the four kinds of jealousy?
    • 1) Delusional Jealousy: story about your partner without proof
    • 2) Chronic Jealousy: ongoing.
    • 3) Specific Relationship jealousy: one person evokes it.
    • 4) Induced jealousy: to prove he/she loves you
  24. What is the Othello Syndrome?
    When delusional jealousy causes significant hostility towards partner including verbal and physical threats and sometimes murder.
  25. Who tends to be more jealous of a better looking rival? Men or Women?
  26. What are the sex differences in men and women?
    • Women: more likely to acknowledge jealous feelings.
    • Men: morelikely to deny jealous feelings and blame partner's behavior or 3rd party.
  27. How do peole balance friends and romantic partner?
    People have different expectations about who takes priority.
  28. Which gender is more likely to prioritize the relatinship?
    Women are more often expected to prioritize the relationship and be the main one making plans in it.
  29. What counts as sex? As a class definition?
    Any behavior, done alone or with another, that causes sexual arousal which may or may not lead to orgasm.
  30. What percent of Americans survyed said that oral sex counts as having sex?
    40% of Americans believe oral sex is sex.
  31. What are the percentages for what people consider sex?
  32. 1) Penile-vaginal intercourse 100%
    • 2) Penile-anal intercourse 81%
    • 3) Oral sex 40%
    • 4) Manual stimulation of genitals 15%
    • 5) Breast contact 3%
    • 6) Deep kissing 2%
  33. What is cunnilinguis?
    oral stimulation of the vulva.
  34. What is fellatio?
    oral stimulation of the penis
  35. what is anilingus?
    Oral stimulation of the anus.
  36. What type of people are more likely to have oral sex?
    People with more formal education are more liekly to have had oral sex.
  37. What is Tribadism?
    Rubbing genitals againts someone else's genital area or body (commong among lesbians)
  38. What is interfemoral intercourse?
    Interfemoral itnercourse is where you rub the penis between the Thighs?
  39. I) By the time American adults get to age 35, 50% have/had an STD.
    True, 1 in 4 teens.
  40. I) During heterosexual intercourse, a female is at a higher risk for contracting an STD from her male partner than he is from her.
  41. I) You can get a Chlamydia or gonorrhea infection in the eye.
  42. A) A female patient presents with a thin, grey-greenish discharge that has a “fishy” smell. What is the most likely diagnosis?
    • 1) Bacterial vaginosis (BV)
    • (a) Caused by overgrowth of Gardnerella vaginalis
    • (b) Main symptom is a thin, grey-greenish discharge
    • (c) Treated with antibiotics, usually Flagyl (Metronidazole)
  43. A) If a woman has had a yeast infection, it means she has had sex.
  44. Are all STDs curable?
  45. What viruses are incurable?
    • 1) HIV – human immune-deficiency virus2) Herpes (HSV-1, HSV-2) (a) HSV-1 = cold sores
    • 3) HPV – human papilloma virus, cause genital warts.
    • 4) Hepatitis B
  46. Which STDs are curable?
    • 1) Bacteria – syphilis, chlamydia, gonorrhea
    • 2) Protazoans – Trichomoniasis (trich)
    • 3) Fungus – yeast infections
    • 4) Parasites – crabs, scabies
  47. I) Which STD can lead to infertility (fe/males) if left untreated?
    • A) Chlamydia (& gonorrhea)
    • Leads to scarring of the tubes 2) Males: ~30% have no symptoms. Rarely, can scar epididymis and cause sterility 3) Females: 80% have no symptoms. Can turn to PID, and scar fallopian tubes. (a) Scarred tubes can lead to infertility if totally blocked or ectopic pregnancy is partially blocked.
  48. I) Most women who contract chlamydia do not show symptoms.
  49. I) HIV & chlamydia have the same chances of being transmitted during one unprotected act of vaginal intercourse.
    False. Chlamydia is more contagious.
  50. I) A fetus inside its mother can get very sick if the mother has an STD.
  51. I) Genital Herpes can be transmitted only during flare-ups of the infection when there are sores present.
  52. I) If someone has herpes or syphilis, their chances of contracting HIV increases.
    True, Ulcer diseases allow another passage way for HIV to enter the body.
  53. I) The only way to test for HIV is a blood test.
    False, you can use a cheek swab test.
  54. I) What is the shortest amount of time necessary to produce HIV test results?
    20 minutes
  55. I) HIV is spreading the fastest for people who are young, heterosexual, female and people of color.
    True, people who perceive themselves as low risk take less precautions.
  56. I) The best form of preventing STDs is using a condom
    False, 100% method is abstinence.
  57. Q: Pregnancy option: How many children do you want?
    A: most common: 2 children (36%) and 3 children (21%)
  58. What are the ten reasons to have children?
    • 1. Personal experience.
    • 2. Personal pleasure.
    • 3. Personal extension.
    • 4. Loving relationshiop.
    • 5. Personal status.
    • 6. Personal competence.
    • 7. Personal responsibility.
    • 8. Companionship for later years.
    • 9. Moral worth.
    • 10. Cultural/religous beliefs/ family pressures.
  59. According to the July 2008, Newsweek article in your reader, having kids makes you happier.
    False. Kids are expensive requires juggling more dual-career family.
  60. What are the 10 reasons NOT to have children?
    • 1. Irrevocable decision.
    • 2. Failure: fear they will not be good parents.
    • 3. Financial drain.
    • 4. Other people's children.
    • 5. Dual careers.
    • 6. Difficulty.
    • 7. Time together: spend less time with partner.
    • 8. Freedom: losses freedom.
    • 9. Sense of danger: word is a dangeorus place.
    • 10. Strain on Earth's resources.
  61. How much will it cost parents to raise a child to age 18?
  62. Will having a second kid double your expenses?
    False, second kid cost about 20% less due to hand-me-downs and room sharing.
  63. What is abstinence?
    No sex: no penile-vaginal intercourse in order to prevent pregnancy.
  64. What is the main active ingredient in most spermicides?
  65. How often does a vaginal ring (Nuvaring) need to be changed?
    Every MONTH
  66. Emergency contraception and RU486 are the same thing
  67. Emergency contraception can be taken up to a maximum of ___ after intercourse.
    120 hours or 5 days.
  68. Who has the legal right to decide an abortion?
    The woman.
  69. What is surgical abortion?
    Vaccum aspiration/suction curettage that is done 7-13 weeks after the last menstrual period.
  70. What is Chemical abortion?
    RU486, taken up to 7th week of pregnancy.
  71. Who tends to be less satisfied with their savings level?
  72. Who is more likely to shopt to celebrate?
  73. What are the three types of saving personalities?
    • 1) Planners & Savers: disciplined abuot saving and purchase.
    • 2) Strugglers: have setbacks by unexpected events.
    • 3) Impulsives & Deniers: spend money when they don't plan to buy anything.
  74. What is Palimony?
    Palimony is a non-marital relationship contract that results in an allowance for support made under court order and given usually by oe person to his/her former love after they have separated.
  75. How many women are beat in US per year?
    6 million women.
  76. What percentage of abusers were abused as children?
    65% of children from violent homes because abusers.
  77. Domestic violence only includes physical abuse?
  78. In a long term relationship, how long does it take for a partner to change a (bad) habit?
    About 3 months.
  79. What is the yo-yo syndrome?
    Pattern in a relationship in which the couple breakup, reunite, onagain-off again.
  80. What is commitment ambivalence syndrome?
    Not knowing whether you should stay or leave a relationship.
  81. How long does it take to brea up with someone you've been dating 6 months - 1 year?
    About 30 - 60 minutes.
  82. Women regretted one-night stands only when their hopes for a more permanent relationship to follow the night of sex were not met.
  83. According to the article, men have the same standards for long-term and short-term partners.
  84. According to an online anonymous survey,

    C. more than twice the number of women regretted one-night stands as compared to men.
  85. According to the article, more women than men under the age of 30 cheated on their spouses.
  86. Despite the rise in infidelity, attitudes against adultery have gotten firmer, with more than 90 percent of people believing that cheating on a spouse is always wrong.
  87. Marriage counselor Diane Sollee states that the increase in infidelity is due to

    C. more oppurtunity to develop intimacy with someone else.
  88. Research shows that cheating peaks right around

    C. seven years of marriage.
  89. The patriarchal relationship paradigm puts your sexual partner, family, and friends all on the same level of importance.
  90. The author states that women,w hether straight or queer, who seek sexual liberation are still labeled sluts or nymphos.
  91. The Author maintains that open relationships are ultimately about sex.
  92. As a courtesy to a partner with whom you live, the author suggests leaving a note if you are not going to come home that night to be with another.
  93. The author claims that her preference for open relatioships is based primarily on

    D. her capacity to love many.
  94. The author believes in all of the following, Except

    B. the concept of the soul mate.
  95. San Francisco has one of the lowest ratios of kids in any US city.
  96. According to the article, childfree people often spend more time caring for aging parents.
  97. The process for a woman in her twenties to get sterizlied by her doctor is relatively easy and quick.
  98. According to christine Fisher, who runs a childfree podcast, the public perception of people who are childless by choice is that they are

    B. cold and uncaring.
  99. In a survey of childfree couples, all are top reasons why they chose not to have kids, EXCEPT

    A. they perceive the world to be a polluted and dangerous place.
  100. according to one of the largest sperm banks inthe country, 60 percent of its clients are single females.
  101. Kids of single, older moms who get pregnan by choice, do wuch worse educationally and emotionally than kids who live with two parents.
  102. What is the statistic for US babies born outside of marriage?
    4 in 10 babies are born out of wedlock.
  103. Relationship expert Greg Culdner says that if long-distance couples do not visit each other at elast once a month, they are doomed to break up.
  104. Long-distance couples are recommended to have 60-minute phone calls every day in order to stay close.
  105. According to Greg Guldner, long-distance relationshp experet, the average long-distance couple is seprated by _____ miles.
    125 miles
  106. Both parnters will feel "pelasant Surprise" sometime withint the first two stages of ending relatinship.
  107. Only the partner being left will experience "Bargaining."
  108. The partner choosing to end the relationship may feel "Regret"
  109. A person will liely experience tremondous anger during the "NO Going Back" stage.
  110. The stage "I'm not the same person" comes before the stage "We can work it out"?
  111. The first stage a person experienes during an ending relationship is
  112. The last stage of an ending relationship is

    D. Peace
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