What is parenting?
an individual who fosters all facets of a child's growth-who nourishes, protects, guides new life through the course of development
Why do people become parents?
- love, affection, stimulation
- creative outlet, proof of maturity, and sense of achievement
- proof of virtue and economic advantage
How is parenting a process?
- parenting is a process that brings about an end result
- it is a series of actions and interactions on the part of the parents to promote the development of children
According to law, what must parents provide?
- childhood immunizations before 5
- ongoing medical care
- education between 5 and 18
- accepted forms of discipline for behavior
- education so children become law-abiding citizens
How do the child's needs influence the process of parenting?
- social interactions and relationships
- work responsibilities
- >> child's characteristics and individuality
- parent's personal history and psychological resources
- context of stresses and supports
In what ways are children important to parents?
- children meet basic needs for closeness, sense of accomplishment, and maturity in life
- parents grow as they undertake parenting
- children maintain traditions
What is the role of parents?
- to provide responsible caregiving
- to bring different qualities such as sociability and self esteem
- problem-solving skills
- primary authority- meeting children's needs because parents are assumed to have their dependent children's best interests at heart
What do parents want from society?
- financial help in terms of increasing tax exemptions
- removal of sales tax on things necessary, like diapers
- changes that would give them more time with families
- extra time off, incentives to encourage flex-time schedules, paid maternity
- laws increasing children's safety and well being
- safety devices on guns, health care, kidnapping
- positive messages that support parents' values
How does society affect the manner in which parents act?
- social expectations
- disciplining methods
What are the four major forms of family life in the last two centuries?
- Extended farm family
- Nuclear family
- Diverse family forms
- Multigenerational families
Extended farm family
- parents, children, and extended family
- productive economic and social institution based on law and custom
- parents and children
- based on companionship and love
- primary purpose is socializing children and meeting emotional needs
- until 1970s
Diverse family forms
- dual-career families, single-parent, stepfamilies
- arose in 1970s
- two ore more generations to sustain youth
What are the four areas of parental influence after the child is born?
- providing an environment of protection as opposed to one of risk
- providing experiences that lead to the development of maximum potential
- serving as an advocate in the larger community
- being an irreplaceable force in a child's life
What are protective factors? List some.
- factors related to positive changes in intellectual and social-emotional function in children between 4-13
- ex. general positive atmosphere of the family
- teaching children to think and reflect and make decisions
- children's feeling the world is predictable and your family has support
- children's self esteem
- >>children's characteristics
- environmental characteristics
What are risk factors. list some.
- factors associated with poor outcomes for children:
- -mother difficulties: anxiety, lack of emo. stability, lower education
- -negative family interactions: rigid beliefs about growth, few positive interactions m-c
- -minority group status, single parenthood
- -stressful events, especially when occurred in large families
How does the social health of the country affect parenting?
- ability to give financial aid
- lack of health care
- highest rate of infant mortality
How do family interactions affect parenting?
- close family?
- extended family?
- do parents agree with the way they were raised?
- mother/father disagreements
what part of those surveyed said parents had children before they were ready for the responsibility
what are the five areas that Ellison identified in which parenting abilities improve?
- observation skills and sensitivity to others' behaviors
- social skills
Is parenting determined by the way you were parented?
- no, but it could.
- children who are abused are at a higher risk of abusing their own kids
- you can learn from your experiences
- choose to keep rituals, traditions, etc
What does Siegel encourage parents to do?
- live in present moment with children; focus on feelings and perceptions
- look beyond child's external behaviors to understand internal ways the child thinks and feels
- appreciate what parent and child are experiencing and then choose actions to meet basic needs
*How important are parents in lives of children?
- early stimulation is crucial
- most important, though not the only influence regarding development
- genes exist only in an environment and from moment of conception, parents have largest role in providing or monitory quality of that environment
- it may be there because of genes, but the parental environment shapes it.
- -providing environment of protection
- -providing experiences to lead to potential
- -serving as an advocate in larger community
- -being an irreplaceable force in a child's life
How can parents be advocates for children
- provide support
- take a stand for the sake of their development
- seek instruction for your children
- help them reach their best potential
- structure practices/study groups/play groups
- stress the importance of development
Should parents be required to have training for parenting?
- yes, even though it is unrealistic
- i think a simple parenting class before or directly after baby is born is good
- to teach things that are sometimes overlooked
- stress milestones, importance of stimulation, nutrition, etc.