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Matching Hypothesis
States that although we prefer a more attractive person in the abstract, in the real world we end up choosing someone who is close to our own level.
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Friendship
A form of close relationship that involves enjoyment, acceptance, trust, respect, mutual assistance, confiding, understanding, and spontaneity.
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Romantic Love
Also called passionate love, or eros, has a strong sexual and infatuation components and often predominates in the early period of a love relationship.
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Affectionate Love
In this type of love, also called companionate love, an individual desires to have the other person near and has a deep, caring affection for the other person
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The Family Life Cycle: Leaving Home and Becoming a Single Adult
The first stage in the family life cycle. It involves launching.
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The Family Life Cycle: Launching
The process in which youth move into adulthood and exit their family of origin
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The Family Life Cycle:New Couple
Forming the new couple is the second stage in the family life cycle. Two individuals from separate families or origin unite to form a new family system.
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The Family Life Cycle: Becoming Parents and a Family with Children
The third stage. Adults who enter this stage move up a generation and become caregivers to the younger generation
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The Family Life Cycle: Family with Adolescents
The fourth stage. Adolescent children push for autonomy and seek to develop their own identities.
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The Family Life Cycle: Family at Midlife
The fifth stage. A time of launching children, linking generations, and adapting to midlife developmental changes
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The Family Life Cycle: Family in Later Life
The sixth and final stage. Involving retirement and, in many families, grandparenting
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Six Common Pathways Out of Divorce: The Enhancers
Become more competent, well adjusted, and self-fulfilled following their divorce
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Six Common Pathways Out of Divorce: The Good Enoughs
Average people coping with divorce, show some strengths, some weaknesses, not as good at planning and less persistent than the enhancers
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Six Common Pathways Out of Divorce: The Seekers
Motivated to find new mates as soon as possible
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Six Common Pathways Out of Divorce: The Libertines
Often spend more time in singles bars and had more casual sex than their counterparts in the other divorce categories. However, by the end of the year they often grew disillusioned with their sensation seeking lifestyle and want a stable relationship
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Six Common Pathways Out of Divorce: The Competent Loners
Well adjusted, self-sufficient, and socially skilled. Unlike enhancers, competent loners had little interest in sharing their lives with anyone
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Six Common Pathways Out of Divorce: The Defeated
Some have problems prior to their divorce, and problems increase after divorce. The added stress of a failed marriage was more than they could handle. Often have difficulty coping because divorce cost them a spouse who had supported them
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Strategies for Divorced Adults
Think of divorce as a chance to grow personally and to develop more positive relationship.
Make decision carefully. The consequences of your decision making regarding work, lovers, and children may last a lifetime.
Focus more on the future than the past. Think about what is most important to you going forward in your life, set some challenging goals, and plan how to reach them.
Use your strengths and resources to cope with difficulties.
Don’t expect to be successful and happy in everything you do.
Remember that “you are never trapped by one pathway. Most of those who were categorized as defeated immediately after divorce gradually moved on to a better life, but moving onward usually requires some effort.”
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Strategies for Remarried Couples Coping with the Stress of Living in a Stepfamily
- Have Realistic Expectations
- Develop New Positive Relationships Within the Family
- Learn from the First Marriage
- Don’t Expect Instant Love from Stepchildren
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Empty Nest Syndrome
A decrease in marital satisfaction after children leave home, because parents derive considerable satisfaction from their children
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Erikson’s Concept of Generativity
nParenthood, productivity and ideas
–A person aspires to be the best person
–More global concerns
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Erikson’s Concept Of Stagnation
When an individual fails to generate for one’s self and for society
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Levinson’s Theory: Seasons of Life
17-22=Transitions to independence
22-28=Establish adult roles
28-33=Reflect and make new choices
33-40=Consolidate career & family goals
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Levinson’s Early Adult Transition
Form a dream
Form a mentor relationship
Form an occupation
Form a marriage and family
Leads to identity & intimacy
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Levinson’s Theory: Mid-life Transition
Rebalance the young-old polarity
Rebalance the destruction-creation polarity
Rebalance the masculine-feminine polarity
Rebalance the attachment-separateness polarity
Leads to identity & intimacy
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Gould’s Theory
17-22 yrs Forge identity
22-28 yrs Attain goals
28-34 yrs Question life
35-43 yrs Create stability
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Gutman’s Theory
Parental imperative accentuates gender differences
Men- autonomy, competence, control
Women-nurturance, sympathy, understanding
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McAdam’s Model Of Generativity
Motivation
–Inner desire
–Cultural demands
Nurturing the next generation
–Concern for the next generation
–A belief in the goodness of the human experience
–A commitment from taking responsibility of others
–Taking action
A personal understanding of how they effect the next generation
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Havighurst’s Developmental Tasks Of Middle Age
Accepting and adjusting to physiological changes of middle age
Reaching and maintaining satisfactory performance in one’s occupation
Adjusting to aging parents
Assisting teenage children to become responsible and happy adults
Relating to one’s spouse as a person
Assuming social and civic responsibility
Developing leisure-time activities
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Family Changes During Midlife
Family composition & demands
Marital satisfaction
Divorce
Life-cycle squeeze
Empty nest
Grandparenting
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Midlife Crisis
1965 Jaques claimed that people encounter a crisis as they realize that their own mortality approaches
Worries about the future
Inability to enjoy leisure time
A feeling that health is deteriorating
Negative evaluation of marriage and work
Stress from taking care of the eldery
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