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Reciprocal socialization
____ have lost socializing role in the family
More urban and suburban dwelling than in rural, on farms
More family mobility across the United States
___ exposure to media and technology
____ divorces and remarriages; rising dissatisfaction
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Reciprocal socialization
Changes in families: children affected most
High immigration rates of Latinos and Asians in the United States
More stressors (language, identity, relocation, SES)
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Multiple development trajectories
Different trajectories for children and adults – timing of changes
Children: timing of child care and middle school entry
Adults: timing of family tasks and changes
Planned such as delayed marriage
Unplanned such as job loss and divorce
Reentry into workforce
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Single Adults
Being single
Dramatic increase from 2000 to 2006 (ages 20 to 29)
Single stereotypes
Advantages and disadvantages
When deciding to settle down, changes occur in:
Autonomous decisions on life course, developing personal resources for goals, personal scheduling, pursuit of interests and opportunities, privacy
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Cohabiting adults
Living together, unmarried, in a sexual relationship
United States: from 11% in 1970 to 60% today
More likely in low-income than higher-earning situations
Relationships more equal than those in marriage
Cohabiting tends to be short-lived in United States
Single women at higher risk of abuse than married ones
Higher in countries other than the United States
Advantages and disadvantages of cohabiting?
- Increasing number are cohabiting: 4% today
- More for companionship than love
- Expected to continue increasing
- Separate assets best when one needs expensive care
- More stable, positive relationship than young cohabitating couples
- More depressed than married counterparts
- Less likely than young adults to marry their partner
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Married adults – we’re still a marrying society
Fulfillment of goals in and out of marriage have changed marriage; created new trends
Changing male-female equality in marriage has created more fragile, intense marital relationships
More adults remain single longer
United States still a marrying society; divorce rates slowing
Social contexts: culture influences marriage
International comparisons in marriage
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What makes marriages work - Gottman
- Establishing love maps
- Nurturing fondness and admiration
- Turning toward each other instead of away
- Letting your partner influence you
- Solving solvable conflicts
- Overcoming gridlock
- Creating shared meaning
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Coontz on U.S. marriages
- More fragile because partners have become more self-centered and career-minded?
- Increased equality, loving and intimate relationships, protection of children
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Gottman: Important for self-repair process
- Deep friendship and mutual respect
- Forgiveness and commitment are necessary; includes self-sacrifice
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Improves quality of marriage
May reduce risk of divorce
Linked to higher commitment level to spouse, lower destructive level in marital conflict
Premarital education
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Benefits of a good marriage
- Longer, healthier lives
- Lower levels of depression, anxiety, anger
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Middle Adulthood
Most marrieds express ...
considerable satisfaction
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Middle Adulthood
Widowhood and adjustment
Adjustments needed at retirement
Happiness affected by each partner’s coping with aging, personal conflicts
More satisfied than younger singles; very happy
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If divorce occurs, it usually happens early in marriage
Stress of separation, divorce risks: psychological and physical difficulties
Psychiatric disorders, hospital admission, clinical depression, alcoholism, sleep disorders, chronic health problems
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Dealing with divorce
A chance for personal growth
Make decisions carefully
Focus more on the future than on past
Use your strengths and resources
Don’t expect success, happiness in all you do
You’re never trapped by one pathway
Custodial/non-custodial parental issues
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Hetherington – “For Better or For Worse”
Six pathways out of divorce-
The Good-enoughs –
The defeated –
The libertines –
The seekers –
The enhancers –
The competent loners –
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Main reason for staying married: ....
children
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Main causes of divorce
For women
Verbal, physical, emotional abuse (23%)
Alcohol or drug abuse (18%), cheating (17%)
For men
No obvious problems, just fell out of love (17%)
Cheating (14%), different values, lifestyles (14%)
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Average: remarriage within four years of divorce
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Remarried Adults and adjustment
Strategies: have realistic expectations and develop new positive relationships within family
Avoid repeating past problematic behaviors
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Gay and lesbian adults
Lesbian couples place high priority on equality
Compared to heterosexual couples
Satisfactions: loves, joys, conflicts
Needs: romantic love, affection, autonomy, equality
More flexible in gender roles than heterosexuals
Prefer long term, committed relationships
Lesbians usually do not have open relationships
Increasingly creating families with children
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Parental Roles
Many plan to be parents; others are startled
Needs and expectations stimulate myths
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Parents As Managers
Provide opportunities, monitor, act as social arrangers for children
Teach child to be independent, make competent decisions
Serve as regulators of children
Effective management produces best outcomes
Important in adolescence due to social contexts avail
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Baumrind’s parenting styles
Authoritarian — restrictive, punitive
Authoritative — warm, supportive, accountability stressed
Neglectful — uninvolved in child’s life, no controls/norms
Indulgent — highly involved, child sets rules, no controls
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Authoritative parenting linked to competence across wide range of
Ethnic/cultural groups (variation in styles, especially Asians and Latinos)
SES: physical punishment used more by African Americans
Most associated with positive child outcomes in ethnic studies
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Consequences of corporal or harsh punishment
Parent is out-of-control role model
Instills fear, rage, and avoidance in child
Shows/tells child what not to do; not what to do
Punishment can be abusive
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Physical abuse
Infliction of physical injuries
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Child neglect:
Failure to provide basic necessities
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Sexual abuse
Fondling of genitals, exploitation, pornography production, physical penetration of body cavities
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Emotional abuse
Acts/omissions inflicting mental/psychological injury
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Girls of working mothers engage in less gender stereotyping, have more egalitarian views of gender
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Effects of Divorce on Children
More likely to show poorer adjustment
More likely to have academic and behavioral problems
Overall adjustment affected by social maturity, gender, temperament, custody situation, SES
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In general, adopted children
More likely to have psychological and school-related problems; use illicit drugs, engage in delinquency
Show slightly more behavior problems
Have higher use of mental health services
More prosocial, less likely to be withdrawn
No differences in self-esteem
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Social Support and Social Integration
Important physical and psychological impact
Social convoy model of social relations — go through life embedded in personal network of individuals that give social support
Helps those of all ages cope
Improves mental and physical health
Linked to reduced symptoms of disease
Linked to longevity
Emotionally positive contact lowers depression
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Successful aging
Positive dimensions ignored too long
Proper diet, technology, medical advances, and active lifestyle prolong and enhance quality of life
Related to perceived control over one’s environment (self-efficacy)
Social integration is very important
Being lonely and isolated – a significant health factor
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Centenarians – optimistic and very happy
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Psychological effects of poverty
Powerless, vulnerable, no financial resources
Inadequate housing, at-risk environment, etc.
Long term effects: chronic health problems
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Who is poor?
Women — feminization of poverty
Single mothers; single fathers
Families and poverty
Economic pressure linked with parenting
Benefits to parents help children
Poverty, aging, and ethnicity
Overall more among women and ethnic minorities; more than 25% of older women
Ethnic diversity continues to increase
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Peer Group Functions
- Peers: individuals about the same age or maturity level
- Peer groups provide source of information and comparison about world outside the family
- Peer influences and evaluations can be negative or positive
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Parent influences on peer relations
- Choice of neighborhoods, churches, schools
- Recommend strategies to handle disputes or become less shy
- Provide emotional base from which to explore peer relations
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Peer contexts
Interaction influenced by context; situation, location, culture
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Five peer statuses
Popular – often designated a best friend, rarely disliked
Average – receive average positive/negative ratings
Neglected – rarely nominated a best friend, not disliked
Rejected – actively disliked, infrequently nominated as best friend
Controversial – frequently nominated as best friend and being disliked
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From age 3, children prefer same-sex groups
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From age 6, boys prefer larger groups
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Boys: organized group games, rough-and-tumble
Girls: collaborative discourse
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Cliques: Small groups averaging 5 or 6; usually same sex and age
Crowd: larger than cliques, less personal than cliques
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Six Functions of Friendship
- Companionship
- Stimulation
- Physical support
- Ego support
- Social comparison
- Affection/intimacy
- Intimacy in friendship: self-disclosure and sharing of private thoughts
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Parten’s social play categoriess
- Nonsocial
- Parallel
- Associative
- Cooperative
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Disengagement theory
To cope effectively, older adults should gradually withdraw from society
Lessen emotional ties, have more self-preoccupation
Outdated for today’s world
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Activity theory
- The more active and involved older adults are, the more likely they are to be satisfied with their lives
- Today’s older adults are more active than ever before
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Ageism
Prejudice against other people because of age, especially prejudice against older adults
Most based on assumed frailty and ailments of age
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Important physical and psychological impact
Social convoy model of social relations — go through life embedded in personal network of individuals that give social support
Helps those of all ages cope
Improves mental and physical health
Linked to reduced symptoms of disease
Linked to longevity
Emotionally positive contact lowers depression
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Social integration is very important
Being lonely and isolated – a significant health factor
Centenarians – optimistic and very happy
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Positive dimensions ignored too long
Proper diet, technology, medical advances, and active lifestyle prolong and enhance quality of life
Related to perceived control over one’s environment (self-efficacy)
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Men’s gender development
Male roles are contradictory and inconsistent
Can cause role-strain in
Health (may be considered: hazardous)
Male-female relationships (affected by traditions)
Male-male relationships (fathers have impact)
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Women’s gender development
Women often try to actively participate in others’ development
Emotionally
Intellectually
Socially
Women maintain competency, self-motivation, and self-determination in relationships
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Consequences of Adolescent Pregnancy
Health risks for mother and child
Low birth rate in newborns linked to infant mortality, neurological problems, childhood illness
Young mothers more likely to
Drop out of school; were low achievers in school
Have history of conduct problems
Come from low-income backgrounds
Live in poverty
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Emerging adulthood
Patterns of heterosexual behavior
Time frame for sexual activity and singlehood
Males have more casual sex; females more selective
Most limit sex partners to one or two persons annually
Casual sex more common in “hooking up”
The earlier the age of first sex, the more sexual activity in emerging adulthood
Religious adults have fewer sexual partners
Alcohol use loosens inhibitions, decreases caution
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Middle adulthood
Climacteric: midlife transition, fertility ends/declines
Women: Menopause late forties or early fifties;
Perimenopausal is transitional time
Hormone replacement therapy (HRT): risks involved
Men: less testosterone, less desire, possible erectile dysfunction (Viagra and similar drugs have appeared)
Ability to function slows little, frequency drops in old age
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Regulation of emotion
External sources regulate in infancy, childhood
Shift to internal, self-initiated regulation with increasing age
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Parents’ roles in helping children
Emotion-coaching approach
Monitor child’s emotions
Negative emotion is a coaching opportunity
Emotion-dismissing approach
Deny, ignore negative emotions
Linked to poor emotional regulation in child
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Emotionally Competent Individuals
- Have awareness of own emotional state
- Good at detecting others’ emotions
- Use the vocabulary of emotional terms in socially and culturally appropriate terms
- Have empathic, sympathetic sensitivity to others
- Recognize inner emotions do not reflect outer ones
- Adaptively cope with negatives; self-regulatory
- Aware of emotions’ major impact on relationships
- See oneself as feeling the way one wants to feel
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Emotional expression and social relationships
Infants: two types
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Crying – most important for communication
Basic cry: rhythmic pattern
Anger cry: variation of basic cry
Pain cry: long, sudden initial loud cry
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Reflexive smile: innate origins
Social smile: response to external stimuli
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Self-conscious emotions
Self-awareness; emerges at 18 mos. or earlier
Empathy, jealousy, and embarrassment
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Fear: first appears about 6 mos.; peaks at 18 mos
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Stranger anxiety: fear and wariness of strangers; intense between 9 and 12 mos.
Affected by social context, stranger’s characteristics
Individual variations
Separation protest — crying when caregiver leaves; peaks about 15 months of age
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Early childhood
Young children experience many emotions
Ages 2 to 4: increased number of ways and terms to describe emotions
Learn about causes, consequences of feelings
Ages 4 to 5: increased ability to reflect on emotions
Self-conscious emotions
Pride, shame, embarrassment, and guilt
First appear about age 18 months
Ability to reflect on emotions increases with age
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Kagan’s behavioral inhibition
- Inhibition to unfamiliar
- Shy/avoidance, subdued, timid child
- Extremely uninhibited
- Extraverted, social, bold child
- Inhibition shows considerable stability from infancy through early childhood
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Match between child’s temperament and environmental demands
Goodness of Fit
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Social orientation in infants
Face-to-face play: infant-caregiver interactions
Still-face paradigm: shows infants react differently to people than objects
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Ages 1 to 2: more locomotion, social play with peers, independence, goal-directed motivation
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Social referencing
- Child reads emotional cues in others, reacts
- By second year of age: much better at this
- Social sophistication and insight reflected in infant’s perceptions of others
- Advanced social cognitive skills are expected to influence attachment awareness
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Theories of attachment
Bowlby: stresses importance of attachment in first year and responsiveness of caregiver
Develops in series of phases
Preattachment Phase : birth to 2 months
Attachment in the making Phase: 2 to 7 months of age
Clear-cut Attachment: 7 to 24 months of age
Reciprocal relationship: 24 months and older
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nAinsworth and the “strange situation”
nMeasure of infant attachment to caregiver
nRequires infant to move through a series of introductions, separations, and reunions
nSecurely attached or insecure
nCriticisms:
nMay not reflect real world behavior
nCulturally-biased to Western children
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Secure Attachment: Use the parents as a secure base; actively seek contact with the parent when he or she returns.
Avoidant Attachment: Seem unresponsive to the parent and are slow to greet the parent upon reunion.
Resistant Attachment: Seek closeness to the parent and are distressed and angry when the parent returns.
Disorganized/Disoriented Attachment: Pattern reflects the greatest insecurity. At reunion, these infants often show confused, contradictory behaviors.
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Caregiver Behavior and Attachment
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Types of attachment to parents
Dismissing/avoidant: caregiver rejection
Preoccupied/ambivalent: inconsistent parenting
Unresolved/disorganized: high fear due to traumatic experiences
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Adolescent
Dating and romantic relationships
Spend lots of time dating or thinking about it
Form of recreation
Source of status or achievement
A way to learn about close relationships
Function for mate selection
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Adulthood and romantic love
Also called passionate love or eros
Strong components of sexuality and infatuation
Complex intermingling of emotions
Often predominates early part of love relationship
Affectionate love or companionate love
Have deep, caring affection for person
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Erikson's
Generativity: taking care of next generation
Middle-aged adults develop in many ways
Stagnation
Self-absorption, develops when one senses s/he has done nothing for next generation
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Developmental changes in self-esteem
Adulthood: older adults
Emotion-related goals increase
Health evaluation based on peer comparisons
May help maintain positive self-image
Low self-esteem linked to being widowed or institutionalized; experiencing physical decline/impairment; low religious commitment
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