1. Marriage: There are 3 “official” types of marriages (not counting “Open”). They are Traditional, Separate, and Independent.
For 1 point, describe 1 type. For 2 points, describe 2 types.
Traditional - the Cleavers with 2.5 kids. Husband works, wife stays home to raise family. Independent – egalitarian, both
take turns doing all jobs.
Siblings: There are five types of sibling relationships. They are
A. Intimate
B. Congenial
C. __________
D. Apathetic
E. __________
Loyal and Hostile
Family: The fact that family’s are…
---influenced by the environment,
---interdependent,
---equal more than the sum of their parts, and
---consist of subgroups
Refers to
A. Traditional Family
B. General Systems Theory
C. Interaction Patterns
D. Egalitarian Family Theory
B- General Systems Theory
Friends: There are several characteristics of friendship. Name 2.
Voluntary, usually peers, governed by rules.
Friends: There are 6 stages of friendship. They are
A. ________________
B. Friendly Relations
C. Stepping beyond social roles
D. _______________
E. Stabilized Friends
F. ______________
Role Limited Interaction / Nascent / Waning
Lovers: From the several characteristics of romantic relationships, what do we mean by Continuous Investment?
A. The legal and financial obligations of the relationship?
B. Our 401K Plans with each other as beneficiary?
C. The $$ we spend on the other for presents?
D. The time, energy, and emotion we put into the relationship?
D – The time, energy and emotion we put into the relationship.
Lovers: There are 4 ways to handle conflict.
They are…
---Validating
---Volatile
---Avoiding
---Hostile
Lovers: Privacy, as one side of a dialectic, works a couple of different ways. In 15 words or less, explain one of the
dialectics (2 points for both ways).
Privacy – self-disclosure, share, time – alone. Dialectic is openness – everybody knows everything.
The Love Styles are…
---Eros
---Storge
---Ludus
---Mania
---Agape
---Pragma
Describe 1 for 1 point, 2 for 2 points
---Eros Passion
---Storge Compassion
---Ludus Manipulative
---Mania Possessive
---Agape selfless, altruistic
---Pragma pragmatic, goal oriented
Lovers: Pick 1 escalating, and 1 de-escalating stage and describe:
Escalation:
Initiation > Experimentation > Intensification > Integration > Bonding
Initiation – first meeting, talking to each other in larger group.
Circumscribing – Emotional distance.
In 10 words or less explain Turning Points.
Something that happens in a relationship that causes it to either get stronger or break down. Ie: old lover shows up with renewed
interest.
The notion of expressing positive and negative emotions as a relational skill refers to
A. Being tolerant and showing restraint in emotions
B. Providing at least 5 positive for every 1 negative emotion
C. Handling Conflict Constructively
D. Having realistic expectations about the relationship to avoid anger issues
B - Providing at least 5 positive for every 1 negative emotions.
The dimensions of intimacy include
A. Physical Closeness
B. Intellectual Closeness
C. Emotional Closeness
D. ________ _________
shared activities
There are 5 considerations for relationship quality. They are:
E. Dialectics E. Disclosure
Social Exchange – The main tenet of social exchange is
A. We compare the relationship to the potential for other possible relationships.
B. We compare the relationship to a perceived level of satisfaction that we believe we deserve out of the relationship.
C. We seek the greatest amount of reward with the least amount of cost.
D. The time and energy invested in the relationship affect the willingness to end the relationship.
C – We seek the greatest amount of reward with the least amount of cost.
There are many ways to deal with the tensions of relational dialectics. Describe 1 for 1 point, 2 for an extra point.
ignore – if partner says something hurtful – ignore it rather than react to it. Alternate – give and take – find middle ground.
Self Disclosure: In 10 words or less, explain “Reciprocity”
One person reveals something personal, receiver then also reveals something personal.
Self Disclosure: In 10 words or less, explain “appropriateness”
No bad jokes or arguing in the restaurant. Use common sense.
Self Disclosure: The levels of self Disclosure are
A. Cultural
Information
B. Sociological Information
C. ________ Information
D. ________ Information
C. Psychological D. Intimate
Describe any 2 of the 4 levels of self disclosure (Cultural, Sociological, psychological, Intimate
Cultural – what you see / sociological – age, rank / Psychological – values, opinions / Intimate – deep, personal info.
Match up:
1. Whole Message
A. Positivity, Openness, Assurances, Fairness
2. Rules for Effective Expression
B. Directness, Immediacy, Clearness, Supportiveness
3. Relational Maintenance Behaviors
C. Observations, Thoughts, Feelings, Needs
1 = C / 2 = B / 3 = A
The motivational state that causes us to think, feel, or behave positively toward someone is referred to as
A. Motivational Needs
B. Halo Effect
C. Attraction Theory
D. Short Term Initial Attraction
Attraction Theory
Proximity, Appearance, Similarity, the Situation, and the Perceived Rewards are all part of:
A. Motivational Needs
B. Halo Effect
C. Attraction Theory
D. Short Term Initial Attraction
Short Term Attraction
In 10 words or less, explain Reciprocal Attraction
They act like they like you , you appreciate it and like them back.
During the process of initial interaction, we are, in part, trying to determine whether continued interaction will be worth the effort. This is known as:
A. Matching Hypothesis
B. Predicted Outcome Value Theory
C. Uncertainty Reduction Theory
D. Reciprocal Attraction
Predicted Outcome Value Theory
There are 3 basic ways to reduce uncertainty. In 15 words or less describe all three.
Wallflower, using a facilitator, go ahead and talk
All of the basics of 1st Impressions; attraction, predicting outcomes, our initial uncertainty reduction, and more are all based
on what?
physical attractiveness
In 10 words or less, describe how to show, physically, that you are interested (approach behaviors).
Uncross arms, lean forward, smile
The first words! What should they be? What’s your sign? or something else? In 10 words or less, what are the constitutive rules for saying those first words.
Hi, How are you. Keep it simple and sincere. Ask an open ended question that allows the listener the option of
responding.
Once the conversation has started, we need to be careful of conversational narcissism and self-absorbed communicator style. Explain 1 for 1 point, both for an extra point (10 words or less, each).
Narcissistic – it’s all about me – not other focused. Self-absorbed – don’t know when to shut up and let the other person speak.
The Impersonal Interrogative Comment is
A. Saying things that avoid any Self Disclosure (Impersonal)
B. Asking questions for clarification (Interrogate)
C. Making general observations in the form of a question (Comment)
Making general observations in the form of a question. (comment)
There are 4 considerations for relationships. They are
A._____________
B.Mutual Influence over each other
C.Manage the relationship
D.Commitment to the relationship
Quality
There are 2 types of relationships. They are (name them):
A. The ones you want to be with (Relationships of _______)
B. The ones you have to be with (Relationships of _______)
Choice / Quality
We have 3 motivational needs to be in a relationship. They are:
A. Affection
B. __________
C. Control
Inclusion
Common elements of any relationship include
A. Context (the physical environment)
B. Amount of Time Together (affects quality and intensity)
C. _______ (the key to a successful relationship)
D. Information Sharing (Amount and degree of disclosure)
E. ______ _____ (How we manage affection, etc.)
trust / motivational needs
CMM, or Coordinated Management of Meaning refers to 2 types of rules: Constitutive and Regulative.
In 10 words or less, explain them.
Norms / set limits
From Coordinated Management of Meaning, one of the following defines how a relationship works. They are usually implicit, unspoken
norms related to appropriate behavior within and around the relationship (for example, Christmas Eve with your parents, Christmas Day with your partners parents).
D. Constitutive Rules
Proximity, Appearance, Similarity, the Situation, and the Perceived Rewards are all part of:
C. Short Term Initial Attraction
The social penetration model illustrates
D. how much information and what kind of information we reveal in various stages of a relationship
An assertive communication is one in which we
A. let our opinions and concerns be known while taking the listener’s into account
In 10 words or less, define Communication Climate.
Emotional tone
When does communication climate begin to develop (10 words or less)?
before conversation starts - 1st impression.
Confirming and Disconfirming communication can lead to reciprocal self-perpetuating spirals of negative or positive communication. What does this mean?
one type leads to another of the same type and continues
Confirming communication has 3 levels of action. They are:
C. Recognition, Acknowledgment, Endorsement
Disconfirming communication has 7 broad types of action. 3 of them are:
D. Impersonal Responses, Ambiguous Responses, Incongruous Responses
Defensive communication has 3 levels of action. They are:
B. Attacking the critic, Distorting critical information, Avoiding the conflict
Anything can cause conflict. Of the million different things, they can be summed up in 3 broad categories of conflict. They are:
B. Specific Behaviors, Relational Norms and Roles, Personal Characteristics and Attitudes
There are 5 different types of conflict. They are:
A._ _________
B. Displaced
C. Misattributed
D. Latent
E. ________
parallel / false
In 10 words or less, explain one of the types of conflict
A. parallel, B. Displaced, C. Misattributed, D. Latent, E. False
Explain 1 type for 1 point, 2 types for 2 points.
A: agree on conflict B: Aware but different understanding C. Blaming wrong thing D. There but don’t know about it yet.
E. argue but on same side and don’t see it.
Match the stages of conflict (1/2 Point for Each Correct Answer):
A. Distal Context
1. Tactics, strategies, styles, and patterns
B. Proximal Context
2. Relational Development, Mental & Physical health
C. Conflict Interaction
3. Emotional State, Goals, Attributions, Relational Norms/Roles
D. Proximal Outcomes
4. Emotional State , Relational Satisfaction, Personal Satisfaction
E. Distal Outcomes
5. Personality, Relationship History, Social Construction, EQ
A = 5 B = 3 C = 1 D= 4 E = 2
In 10 words or less, explain one of the following types of conflict interaction: Tactics, Strategies, Patterns, or Conflict Rituals (note we skipped styles – that is on purpose).
Tactics – what you do / Strategies – game plan / Patterns – how we interact / Rituals – Einstein theory
There are three general strategies for handling conflict. They are:
C. Integration, Distribution, Avoidance
The Intimate—Aggressive pattern of conflict interaction is
B. Confronting each other intensely and passionately
