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1. He always tried to appear perfect and flawless.
1. I know that I'm deeply flawed and deeply WONDERFUL.
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2. He always tried to appear dignified, controlled, composed, beautiful, elegant and correct.
2. I am really playful, odd, attractively awkward, like a curious and lovable child.
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3. He took himself and his persona very seriously.
3. I really don't take myself very seriously at all.
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4. He was highly self-conscious and always guarding himself.
4. I am finally relaxed, selfless, open, authentic; vulnerable with integrity. And it's so liberating.
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5. He was always so careful, cautious, repressed, correct, restricted...
5. I am really curious, unafraid, daring, transgressive and unrestricted.
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6. He was so judging, critical, cynical, bitter, elitist and selfish.
6. I am truly forgiving, loving, positive, happy and generous.
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7. He was a real coward, always avoiding confrontation, always stepping back and letting others walk over him.
7. I am deeply courageous, brave, standing up for myself and standing up for my rights.
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8. He would always say what "sounded good" and what he thought others wanted to hear.
8. I am totally honest and straightforward; saying what I really mean, with total integrity.
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9. He always tried to live up to others' (presumed) expectations.
9. I totally do my own thing, and I don't care what others expect me to be or do.
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10. He would always minimize himself so that he wouldn't step on anyone's toes.
10. I really take my needs and desires completely seriously and stand up for my right to them. (While of course respecting others.)
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11. He would always avoid awkwardness at all costs, compromising and doing everything to make interactions "run smoothly".
11. I invite awkwardness (with calm and amusement), and I never, ever, compromise my integrity or my intentions just to make interactions "run smoothly".
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12. He would avoid making mistakes at all costs.
12. I make many mistakes, and I recognise that they are human and lovable.
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13. He would always hold himself back.
13. I express myself fully -- and shamelessly -- really going for what I really want.
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14. He was always highly critical of himself, of others, and of the world in general.
14. I am highly positive and generous and accepting of myself, of others, and of the world in general.
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15. He would see others as potentially threatening or annoying, people to either look down upon or be intimidated by (or both).
15. I see others as equals, as potentially interesting and sympathetic people to connect deeply with.
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16. He was obsessed with there being "a right way to do things / behave, and if I don't do it tat way, I will look like a fool".
16. There is no right or wrong way to do anything. I do it my way, with pride, and damn it, I do it with total conviction. That's what makes it work.
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17. He would always adapt, hold back, and compromise to be liked and accepted.
17. Fuck it. This is who I am. Take it or leave it. :)
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