Soc Psyc Ch 9

The desire to establish and maintain many rewarding interpersonal relationships

A feeling of deprivation about existing social relations

single best predictor of whether two people will get together is physical proximity or nearness

Studied friendship patterns in married student college housing and found that people were more likely to become friends with residents of nearby apartments than with those who lived farther away.

The phenomenons whereby the more often people are exposed to a stimulus the more positively they evaluate that stimulus.

• There is some benefit to simply hanging around or being near a girl that you're attracted to.
• If you two have a class together, if she sits near you at work, if you often see her at the gym, all these exposures are working to your advantage.
• The first time she ever saw you, she might have thought you were a 5 on a 10 point scale. But after seeing you repeatedly at the gym, she might now rate you an 8 or 9. And you haven't really done anything.

• Body-Hourglass figure
• Face- smooth skin, pleasant expression, and youthfulness

The belief that physically attractive individuals also possess desirable personality characteristics

One possibility is that each of us creates support for the bias via the type of self-fulfilling prophecy model

Fulfilling the prophecies of their own expectations men who expected an attractive partner actually created one.

Good looking people have a significant edge, they are more popular more sexually experience more socially skilled and more likely to attract a mate. Physical attractiveness is not a sure ticket to health happiness or high self esteem.

The proposition that people are attracted to others who are similar in physical attractiveness

A mutual exchange between what we give and receive (liking those who like us)

The tendency to prefer people who are highly selective in their social choices over those who are more readily available

Human beings all over the world exhibit mate selection patterns that favor the conception birth and survival of their offspring, and women and men by necessity employ different strategies to achieve that common goal

The theories discussed so far all have an "intrapsychic" focus. That is, they take the view that behavior and thought are determined largely by factors that reside within an individual. In contrast, the sociocultural perspective maintains that behavior and mental processes are shaped not only by prior learning experiences (the behavioral perspective) or intrapsychic forces (for instance, the unconscious) but also by the social or cultural context.

close or warm friendship

A close relationship between two adults involving emotional attachment, fulfillment of psychological needs, or interdependence

A perspective that views people as motivated to maximize benefits and minimize costs in their relationship with others.

• Our commitment to a relationship depends on how satisfied we are about:
• Rewards and costs and what we see as a fair balance.
• A comparison with potential alternative relationships
• How much we have already invested in the relationship.
• Investments can be financial (like a house), temporal (such as time spend together) or emotional (such as in the welfare of the children). Investments can thus has a sunk cost-effect, where a person stays in a relationship simply because they have already invested significantly in it.

• Exchange- a relationship in which the participants expect and desire strict reciprocity in their interactions
• Communal- A relationship in which the participant expect and desire mutual responsiveness to each others needs

• They way a person typically interacts with significant others
• Secure- easy to get close to others and comfortable depending on them and having them depend on me. I don't often worry about being abandoned or about someone getting to close to me
• Avoidant- Somewhat comfortable being close to others I find I difficult to trust them completely difficult to allow myself to depend on them. I am nervous when anyone gets to close and often love partners want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being
• Anxious- I find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I often worry that my partner doesn't really love me or won't want to stay with me. I want to merge complexly with another person, and this desire sometimes scare people away

A theory proposing that love has three basic components, intimacy, passion ,a dn commitment which can be combined to produce eight subtypes

• Romanic Love- Intimacy and Passion
• Companionate Love- Intimacy and Commitment
• Infatuation- Passion
• Empty Love- Commitment
• Fatuous Love-Passion and Commitment
• Liking- Intimacy
• Consummate Love- All three
• Non-love (none of the three)

• Romantic love characterized by high arousal, intense attraction and fear of rejection
• Two bridge- young man met on each bridge by pretty girl, one bridge sturdy, other shit taskic, men who got girl phone on scary bridge called, men on sturdy bridge did not

Revelations about the self that a person makes to others

A person's preference for members of the same sex, opposite sex, or both (straight, gay, or bi)