deffinition of power and control
this power and control wheel helps link the different behaviors that together form a patter of violence
what are the 8 behaviors
- verbal attacks
- minimizing denying and blaming
- using loved ones
- abusing authority
- economic control
- coericion and threats
define each intimidation
- making her afraid by using looks, actions, gestures.
- smashing things. Destroying her property. abusing pets.
- displaying weapons
define verbal attacks
- puttingher down, making her feel bad about herself, calling her names,
- making her think she's crazy, humiliating her, making her feel guilty.
controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, where she goes. limiting her outside involvement, using jealousy to justify actions.
deffine minimizing denying and blaming
making light of the abuse. saying it never happened. shifting responsibility for abuse behaviour, saying she caused it.
deffine using loved ones
attempting to control her by using the loved ones. using them to relay messages. using children's visitation to harass her. theatening to take them away. calling her a bad mother.
deffine abusing authority
making all the big decisions. acting like you are the king and she is your servant. treating her like a child
deffine ecomomic control
refusing to allow her to work. handling all the finances. giving her an allowance.
deffine coercion and threats
making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her, to leave, or commit suicide.