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• Conflict is inevitable
• Conflict involves personal values and needs
• Most have not been taught effective ways of resolving conflict
• Conflict provides an opportunity for growth in a relationship

• Validators: Can listen and affirm what their partner is saying, even if they do'n agree
• Avoiders: Believe in sanctity of marriage and avoid all conflict
• Volatiles: Love to fight

• Withdraw
• Seek to Win
• Give In
• Compromising
• Resolution

• Set a time and place for discussion
• Define the problem
• Evaluate your contribution to the problem
• List past unsuccessful attempts to resolve the issue
• List all possible solutions
• Discuss and evaluate the solutions
• Agree on one solution to try
• Agree on how each will work toward the solution
• Set up another meeting to discuss progress
• Reward each other as you contribute to the solution

• Planners: Actively discuss the issue, have decided to conceive
• Acceptance of fate: Welcoming of the pregnancy, though it was unplanned
• Ambivalent: Mixed feelings, but do not believe in abortion
• Yes-No Couples: One partner wants children and one doesn't

• In a family with 2 parents and 2 kids, 42% of expenses are from kids
• The average cost of raising a child born in 2001 is $251,000
• The average cost of going to a 4 year college is $81,000

• Closed - Pros: Birth parents have closure, Adoptive parents have no interferences, Kids are safe from unstable birth parents. Cons: Birth parents distress from lack of info, Adoptive parents don't have medical history, Kids have identity confusion.
• Semi-Open - Pros: Birth parents maintain privacy, Adoptive parents have sense of control in info, Kids don't fantasize about parents. Cons: Birth parents distress because they are in contact with adoptive family, Adoptive parents have to deal with communication between new parents and kids, Kids may want more info from parents.
• Open - Pros: Birth parents can develop relationship with kid, Adoptive parents have better understanding of child's history, Kids feel less abandoned. Cons: Birth parents may be disappointed in Adoptive parents, Adoptive parents may have difficulty dealing with birth parents, Kids can feel rejected if birth barents stop contact.

• Public agency adoption costs up to $2500
• Private adoption agency costs up to $35,000
• Adoptive parents are eligible for $11,000 tax credit
• Lack of full medical knowledge of biological parents
• Risk of severe behavioral problems due to drug use
• Possible child trafficking due to increased international adoption

• Contraception Pill: Daily or weekly
• Depo-Provera Shot: every 3 months
• Male Condom:
• Tubal Ligation: Fallopian tubes tied, cut, and cauterized
• Vasectomy: Cutting or blocking of the vas deferens tube

• Intra-Uterine Device (IUD): Device inserted into uterus to stop egg from implanting in the uterine wall
• RU 486 Pill (Mifepristone): Artificial steroid that disrupts hormones crucial for early pregnancy.
• Miscarriage: Pregnancy ends on it's own.

• Menstrual Aspiration: Syringe is used to remove pregnancy
• Suction Curettage: Contents of uterus are removed by suction device
• Dilation and evacuation (D&E): Combination of suction curettage and surgical instruments such as forceps

• 93% of young people see themselves as Christian by age 13
• Decisions are based on 37% feelings, 26% expectations of others, 8% Bible
• 75% believe: Satan doesn't exist, We get to heaven by good deads
• 50% believe: Life has no meaning, no moral standard, we have no say in how our lives unfold, Jesus sinned

• Primary faith: Derived from the infant's initial experience of being sufficiently care for by parents
• Intuitive-Projective faith: Children begin to form a conscious image of God through stories.
• Mythical-Literal faith: Children's understanding of God is largely a projection from human characteristics they find present in "godly" characters in stories.
• Synthetic-Conventional faith: When kids integrate their abstract religious ideas and concepts into a coherent belief system.
• Individuative-Reflexive faith: Process of anchoring faith within self that is often accompanied by examining their previous stages of faith.
• Conjunctive faith: The need for rational, intellectually consistent faith is replaced by the acceptance of a faith that includes ambiguity and mystery.
• Universalizing faith: Characterized by a commitment to overcome division, violence, and oppression, and an ability to transcend specific belief systems.

Our children will naturally behave and think a certain way because they believe it is the best way to do it.

To assert control and authority over the individual being punished.

• Authoritative - High Expectations and Support
• Authoritarian - High Expectations, Low Support
• Permissive - Low Expectations, High Support
• Uninvolved - Low Expectations and Support

• Authoritative - happy, capable, and successful
• Authoritarian - obedient & proficient, low happiness, social competence, & self-esteem
• Permissive - low happiness & self-regulation, problems with authority, poor school performance
• Uninvolved - lack self-control, low self-esteem, less competent than peers

• Time Out
• Ignoring Behavior
• Loss of Privileges
• Extra Chores
• Natural Consequences
• Verbal Reprimand
• Behavior Checklists

In your anger do not sin. Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.

My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.

God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground."

Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.

• 23"Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift.
• 21Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?" 22Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.
• 25And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins."