mental final

put something out of your consciousnis and you pull it back when you need to resolve things

giving to others w/o expecting anything back

someone who is aggressive finds healthier way of getting rid of their aggression 

Butcher pounding meat
going to the gym when angry 

making a joke 

What are the healthy defense mechanisms

Intermediate Defense mechanisms

Putting something out of your mind, you forget about it, and you dont remember it

taking it out on someone else  "mad at boss so you go home and kick the dog"

Say one thing and mean another, talk trash about someone, but in front of the peron they are nice. 

People not assertive and dont get their needs 

you see it in OCD, but they do behaviors that they hope will undo things that happend

A murder washes his hands to undo what he did

A boyfriend hits his gf and giver her flowers to undo what he did 

cant rationalize all of their bad behaviors. 

try to make sense of it and convince what they did was right 

What are the Imature defense mechanisms

damed if you do, damned if you dont 

You want to go out w/ your friends but your mom say no go ahead its ok ill just sit here and watch the movie by myself

This is seen in cluster B and in narcisistics, antisocial and borderline

disconnection btw thoughts and feelings. Can split thier emotions

can come out a different way depending on how chronic 

you have feelings for someone but project your feelings onto others. 
paranoid, can be very dangerous, its all about them

"omg brittany is so in love w/me, but in actuallity you are the one in love w/ her  

"I know these people are out to get me, I know this person dosn't like me"