CMST Chapter 10 terms pt1

an explanation for a transgression that may accompany an apology

the tension between framing a frendship with someone as an end in itself (affection) or seeing ti as a means to anotehr end (instruemtality)

emphasizing the commonaliteis we think we share with another person

a simple statment like "I am really sorry"

providing nonverbal signals that indicate we'd like to initiate contact with anotehr person, such as going up to a person or smiling in that person's direction

the tension between our desire to be independent or autonomous while simultaneously wanting to feel a connection with our partenr

a stage in the coming apart section of Knapp's model of relationship development in which two partners stay away from each other because they feel that being together is unplesant

The final stage in coming together part of Knapp's model of relationship development, in which partners make a public commitment to their relationshiop

a system principle referring to the fact that hierarchy is fomred by creating boundaries around each sepreate system. However, human systems are inherently open, which means that information passes thorught these boundareis,

the process of systems setting their parameters, checking on themselves and self-correcting

A stage in the coming apart section of Knapp's model of relationship development in which two people's communication behaviors are restrained so taht fewer topics are raised, more issues are out of bounds and they interact less

a person's standard level for what types of costs and rewards should exist in a given relationship

a comparison of the costs and rewards of a current relationship to the possibilty of doing better in a differnt relationship

repairing a relationship when it runs into trouble

those things in relational life that we judge as negative

The first stage in the coming apart section of Knapp's model of relationship development, in which two people begin to notice ways in which they differ

the ability to achieve the same goals by a vaariety of means

a stage in coming together part of Knapp's model of relationship development in which two people beocme qcuainted by gathering information about each other

Tensions between oppositings that have to do with ohow relational partners negotiate the public aspects of their relationship

bits of lore about family members and activities that are told and retold as a way for family members to construct a sense of family identity and meaning

a principle that states that all relationships are embedded within larger systems

the tension between an idelized vision of friendship and the real friends one has

a conversation with oneself in whichone partner plays the parts of both partners in a mental rehersal