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There are three kinds of loss:
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When is emotional loss experienced?
when a relationship changes or ends
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What are four examples of emotional loss?
break-ups, friendships, death, divorce
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With what is social loss experienced?
with a major change
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What are examples of social changes?
graduation, moving, loss of job, retirement
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Whenare physical losses experienced?
- when a part of the body or function of htebody is loss
- (loss of a part of the body or function of thebody)
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What are examples of physical losses?
- paralysis
- hair loss
- memory
- amputation
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What is the name of the psychologist and what did she work with?
- Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
- - worked with people dealing with death and loss
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What is Kubler-Ross's book called? What does it explore?
- On Death and Dying
- - explores the five stages of death and dying
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Kubler-Ross realized that these five stages can be what?
applied to any significant experience of loss, and not just death
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What are teh 5 Stages of Death Dying/ Dealing with Significant Loss?
- denial
- anger
- bargaining
- depression
- acceptance
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What are the basics about the stages?
- they are part of framework that make up our learning to live with lost ones
- not in order
- help frame/ identify what we feel
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What are characteristics of denial?
- helps us survive loss (normal)
- doesn't last very long (can't avoid reality very long)
- shock and denial= numb
- hep us cope to make survival possible (survive loss/ get through each day)
- helps us pace our feelings of grief
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What are characteristics of anger?
- shouldn't take it out on others (displaced anger= take anger out on other people)
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no limits (extends to everyone, even God; allowed to mad at God) - you need to let yourself feel it in order for it to go away
- underneath is pain
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What are characteristics of Bargaining?
- you try to change something that can't be changed
- "If only... what if..."
- Guilt is associated with it
- You remain in past and avoid pain of present
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What are characteristics of depression?
- time is the only thing that'll get us out of it
- it happens when you realize the loss is really real
- withdraw from life
- appropriate response to great loss
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What are characteristics of acceptance?
- it is not to be confused with being all right or okay (you're never going to be okay)
- accepting reality and recognizing the new reality is permanent
- it helps us see some + coming out of the -
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What are some things to remember about the five stages?
- - not every person wille xperience them in the same way
- - a person may return to one of the stages during a particularly difficult or emotional time
- - examples: birthdays, holidays, significant events, pictures
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Where is God in all of this?
- 1) Through Prayer
- 2) Providing inspiring role models
- 3) Offering an understanding of the "Communion of Saints"
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How is God there through prayer?
- durring times of loss and loneliness, prayer allows us to have experience that we are NEVER alone because God is ALWAYS with us
- We can pray through traditional prayers, or by simply talking to God throughout our day
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How is God present by providing inspiring role models?
examples of those who have courageously dealt with loss and heartbreak
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How does God offer an understanding of the Communion of Saints?
- we (on earth) are connected to those in heaven through our shared faith in Jesus
- We can connect with them through actually receiving Jesus (our connection to those who have died) in the Eucharist
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