Biblical Basis for Marriage & Family
In relation to Aspects of God: God is a ____________ being
In relation to the Aspects of God: God is a ___________ being
Nature of Mankind: Man is a ____________ being
Nature of Mankind: Man is also a ___________ Being
The woman is a what to the man?
Complimentarity view of men and women. What is it?
Both are created in the image of God.
Both have equal Worth, Value and dignity as persons before God
There are God-created differences between men and women
Egalitarian view of men and women. What is it?
No created differences (other than physical) between men and women.
No God-created distinction in roles, interchangeable in function.
Can't have equality with spouse one in authority.
Does away with Submission
Whom does God hold accountable for the sin in the Garden?
What two key things took place when Adam and Eve committed the first sin?
1) A broken relationship with God
2) They experienced guilt and fear
Getting Your Needs Met
What are the basic needs of Mankind?
- 1) Need for Relational security
- - Relationships with Humans - Relationship with God
- 2) Need for Significance
- - Need to Accomplish a meaningful task.
Females are more in tune with ___________ needs
Males are more tuned in to their _______________ needs
The State of Marriage & The Family
When did STD's first appear?
Around 400 B.C.
Is Cohabitation as stable as marriage?
80% higher divorce rates for women who have cohabitated.
Greater marital Conflict
Increase in Adultery
Domestic Violence and Cohabitation. Is it prevalent?
Rate almost Twice as high for cohabitating couples than married.
Severe violence rate is five times as high.
What is the toll of Divorce on Women?
Greater need for Support
in finances, childcare and career.
satisfied with social life, physical intimacy, household issues
- Poor social adjustment with current partner, extended family, other social activites.
What is the toll of Divorce on Men?
Increased Mental illness, suicide & Accidents
What is the toll of Divorce on Children?
Decreased academic achievement, psychological adjustment and self concept
Incrased Behavior problems, social difficulties
What is the toll of Divorce on Adolescents?
Higher levels of general Health problems, more impulsive, lower self-concepts
1 to 4 times more likely to be Sexually active, 2 to 3 times more likely to be involved in drug abuse.
What is the toll of Divorce on Adults from Divorced Homes?
Incrased risk of divorce, of being a single parent, and behavior problems.
Decreased: physical health, psychological well being, education, job status, standard of living and marital satisfaction.
Benefits of Marriage. Go...
- 1)Healthier physically and mentally
- 2)Live Longer3)Take Better care of self and each other
- 4)Families earn 10-40% higher
Family of Origin Issues
Everybody enters into marriage with ___________.
Bumping into each others invisible walls.
Family rules can be the following:
- - Spoken
- - Habits
- - Preferences
- - Traditions
- - Unspoken
Examples of Unwritten rules in Dysfunctional Families
- We don't feel: keep emotions guarded
- We are always in control: don't show weakness, don't ask for help
- We don't trust: not ourselves, not others
- We keep the family's secrets: no one would believe us anyway
- We are ashamed: we are to blame for everything bad, we deserve it.
Family "rules" often lead to _____ _____________.
What are the 3 Conflict Resolution Styles?
Why should we Forgive
God Commands it.
It benefits the Forgiver.
It may benefit the Offender
What are the Steps of Forgiving?
- Recognize the injury and acknowledge our Pain
- Identify the emotions involved. Fear, guilt, shame, anger, griefSet BoundariesConsider the possibility of Reconciliation.
Forgiveness has three aspects. What are they?
- 1) First, it has to do with the other person
- 2) Second, it has to do with God who has forgiven us
- 3) Third, it has to do with us. When we release others, we release ourselves.
Our infant experiences with our parents color how we see people and relationships. Those childhood expreiences translate into what is known as our _____ __________.
What three questions do we develop about our Core Beliefs?
- About SelfAbout Others
- About the World
What are the thre Attachment Styles?
Testosterone is the Male's major sex hormone. What does it promote?
- Desire for independence
- Desire to provide and protect
Along with Testosterone, _____________ regulates sexual persistence as well as aggression.
What is the Bonding Hormone?
What is the Calming hormone?
Estrogen is the Female's major sex hormone. What does it promote?
- Feelings of well-being
- increases sensitivity to stimuli
- sexual arousal
What hormone promotes parenting and nurturing feelings
Males have high levels of what hormones?
Females have high levels of what hormones?
In the brain, White matter does what?
Transmits electrical signals
In the brain, Gray matter does what?
Where is the Corpus Callosum in the brain and what does it do?
It is located Between the Two Hemispheres and Connects the left side of the brain to the right side.