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• Establishing the relationship
• Setting Clear and Heartfelt Intentions for Relationships and each Session
• Identifying client's vision and desires (Long Range intention)
• Exploring Issues/Feelings Related to the Vision
• Summarizing Awarenesses Evolving From the Session
• Identifying the Action, Committing to New Action, Developing the Action Plan or Course Correcting

• Demonstrate genuine concern for client's experience & vision
• Use the skills of Conscious Listening and Conscious Sharing
• Establish the coaching environment as a safe place
• Establish clear agreements to create an environment of safety
• Establish parameters and boundaries of the relationship
• Explore and assess client's learning style
• Explore client's willingness to approach sensitive topics and new areas of behavior/action
• Explore alternative coaching tools and techniques that will be helpful in working together. Assess the client's comfort level for this work.

• Sustain the focus of the session
• Facilitate agreement about the nature and direction of the sessions
• Allow client to clarify vision, intention and desires
• Clarify client needs, resources and agenda
• Distinguishes between trivial concerns and significant issues
• Establish an effective match between coach's approach and client expectations & responsibilities
• Supports the establishment of appropriate techniques and activities for the session
• Provides insight and foundation for course correction and new behavior

• Promote self-discovery and self-appreciation
• Identify, assess and clarify the client's personal foundation
• Bring awareness to thoughts, beliefs, perceptions, emotions and behavioral responses by sharing observations and perceptions
• Identify sources of difficulty and resources for support
• Provide a basis for assessing concerns
• Challenge the client's assumptions with new ideas and alternative perceptions
• Gain understanding and awareness of what to do, how to do it

• Distinguish between emotional reaction and behavioral response
• Identify and clarify limited perceptions of reality
• Facilitate Ownership to eliminate blame and projection
• Facilitate Inner Cooperation
• Establish foundation for conscious choices and commitment

• Identify shifts in client's perception
• Clarify new information that has come forward
• Clarify and eliminate resistance
• Support awareness of new possibilities
• Establish direction for action plan/commitment

• Align intention, desired outcome and actions
• Explore calculated and required risk-taking
• Facilitate consistent, committed and conscious action/movement
• Develop and facilitate the client's next most appropriate steps
• Create criteria for evaluating progress
• Establish agenda for future sessions

• listens
• supports
• motivates and encourages
• understands
• knows what to ask
• collaborates
• guides
• challenges
• sees no limits
• is evolutionary
• strategizes
• accelerates

• Listens to the client's heart, not to the situation.
• Remains person-centered, not problem-centered.
• Hears what is not said.
• Expands what is said.

• Is present/available to support the client in taking one step at a time.
• Does NOT make the client dependent.

• Support and encourage the client to:
• make a new level of investment in self,
• take risks, and
• move beyond discomfort, fear, judgments and resistance.

• Keep the client moving forward by:
• Creating and manifesting heartfelt intentions
• Offering encouragement
• Positive reinforcement

• Like a living, "third" eye:
• Provides input and access unseen opportunities
• Expands the client's vision to unchartered waters that are always available.

• Co-creates plans and a vision to move the client beyond limited perspectives.
• Recognizes growth & healing opportunities aligned with client's needs.

Guides the client in recognizing "how to do" what is required to move forward easily and effortlessly.

• Demonstrates awareness, acknowledgment and acceptance of the client's needs and perspective.
• Knows when and how to be patient, caring and respectful of the client.

• Ask powerful & relevant questions to expand perspective & opportunity.
• Ask the right question at the right time.
• Move the client and the coaching sessions forward at warp speed.
• Not "coaching the symptom" or getting caught up in the story.

• Involve, encourage, inspire the client to create, change, develop and evolve.
• Collaboration is what differentiates coaching from counseling & therapy.

• Guide client on how fast or slow to go.
• Keep speeding up until the client complains.

• Eliminate all real & perceived limits.
• Encourage and motivate the client to think/act big.
• Discourage the client from playing small which means allowing what stopped her before to stop her now.

• Listen
• Feel
• Respond - to the client

• Ask
• Clarify
• Choose - what the client wants

• Explore
• Clarify
• Create

• Identify
• Explore
• Reframe - the issues

• Re-State/Re-Frame
• Support course correction
• Guide - to and through new behaviors

• Strategize
• Motivate
• Support

• Conscious Listening
• Conscious Sharing
• Mirroring Feelings
• Exploring Feelings
• Perception Checking
• Silence

• Giving Effective Feedback
• Care-Frontation
• Facilitating Choice
• Facilitating Commitment

• Giving Effective Feedback
• Care-Frontation
• Facilitating Ownership
• Identifying Perceptual Filters

• Seeing the Loving Essence
• Positive Reinforcement
• Prizing
• Facilitating Choice
• Facilitating Commitment

• Meditation
• Visualization
• Creating from a Safe Place
• Facilitating Choice

• Prayer
• Meditation
• Visualization
• Creating from a safe place
• Facilitating Choice
• Creating new behaviors

• Creating heartfelt intentions
• Facilitating Choice
• Facilitating Commitment
• Creating new behaviors
• Completing Incomplete cycles

• Seeing the Loving Essence
• Creating heartfelt intentions
• Creating positive affirmations
• Asking open-ended questions
• Exploring Feelings
• Conscious Sharing

• Asking open-ended questions
• Asking focused questions
• Asking relevant questions
• Restoring integrity

• Asking relevant questions
• Facilitating Ownership
• Facilitating Choice
• Facilitating Commitment

• Facilitating Ownership
• Facilitating Choice
• Facilitating Commitment

• Seeing the Loving Essence
• Creating clear and heartfelt intentions
• Exploring Feelings
• Facilitating Ownership
• Facilitating Choice
• Facilitating Commitment

The Who-What-How model.

• Who is the client?
• What does the client value?
• What is the client's motivation?
• What is the client bringing to the table?
• Who supports the client?
• What makes the client tick?

• What does the client want?
• What is the client willing to do?
• What obstacles does the client face?
• What are the client's strengths?
• What is driving/motivating the client?
• What is the client's intention?

• How can the client achieve the goal?
• How does the client see herself in relationship to the goal?
• How can the client be supported/encouraged to reach for the goal?
• How can the client realize the intention?
• What is the strategy for moving forward?

By identifying, clarifying and integrating 1) Who the client is; 2) What the client intends to experience, create and/or accomplish; and 3) How (steps the client can embrace) to fully realize her intentions, whild honoring the most important elements of the "who" and "what."

• Honors the totality of the client's experience.
• Honors the client's strengths and identifies deficiencies.
• Facilitates and supports the development of boundaries and expectations.
• Provides clear opportunities for growth and healing.
• Establishes a solid foundation which the coach and client can embrace.
• Develops effective, self-supportive and self-honoring plans and activities.
• Facilitates faster achievement of results.
• Eliminates potential difficulties in creating and sustaining consistent forward movement.

• Attitudes
• Values
• Achievements
• Resources
• Character
• Skills
• Roles
• Beliefs
• Needs
• Level of mental, emotional, and spiritual development

• Available vs. Willing
• Being vs. Doing
• Ready vs. Able
• Ready vs. Not Ready
• Ready vs. Willing
• Who vs. What

• Availability requires four factors: presence, willingness, readiness and desire.
• Availability relates to internal and external mental or emotional presence or state of being, stage of mental, emotional and skill development, as well as desire.
• Willing relates to the presence of desire, availability of resources and appropriateness of timing, however the requisite internal support is not present at the mental and/or emotional levels.
• Willing means there is an openness to attempt to move and acceptance of the need for movement, however the necessary motivation or self-generated support is not present or available.

• Being is a function of how one is with themselves, others and their environment in response to the internal landscape through which one functions in the world.
• Doing is task oriented behavior and activity motivated by a conscious or unconscious attachment, unclear intention and a desire to produce linear, measurable achievements.

• Ready relates to preparation, personal and universal timing, the availability of resources and the ability to take action.
• Readiness must occur at the physical, mental and emotional levels in order to be effective and self-supportive. If the individual is not ready, no amount of coaching will create or generate movement.
• Readiness - spiritually, timing generally relates to the state of development and openness within the environment. It is possible for the individual to be ready when the universe is not.
• Able relates to the client's stage of development, readiness, availability of requisite resources, degree of internal support, skill, talents and timing.
• Ability is affected by the mental and emotional stage of development.
• Ability - There may be desire and willingness without the requisite ability and skill. When one attempts movement without ability, it is generally a process of self-sabotage.

• Ready relates to preparation, personal and universal timing, the availability of resources and the ability to take action.
• Readiness must occur at the physical, mental and emotional levels in order to be effective and self-supportive. If the individual is not ready, no amount of coaching will create or generate movement.
• Readiness - spiritually, timing generally relates to the state of development and openness within the environment. It is possible for the individual to be ready when the universe is not.
• Not Ready relates to the absence of some required aspect of skill, development, preparation, resources or internal support.
• Not Ready may also relate to where one is in the plan or process.

• Ready relates to preparation, personal and universal timing, the availability of resources and the ability to take action.
• Readiness must occur at the physical, mental and emotional levels in order to be effective and self-supportive. If the individual is not ready, no amount of coaching will create or generate movement.
• Readiness - spiritually, timing generally relates to the state of development and openness within the environment. It is possible for the individual to be ready when the universe is not.
• Willing relates to the presence of desire, availability of resources and appropriateness of timing, however the requisite internal support is not present at the mental and/or emotional levels.
• Willing means there is an openness to attempt to move and acceptance of the need for movement, however the necessary motivation or self-generated support is not present or available.

• Who relates to the totality of the person at all levels of being.
• Who is the focus of the spiritual coaching paradigm and must be honored if the individual is to realize the fulfillment of the stated intention.
• What relates to the intention, goal, situation or outcome.
• What is the point of focus and the energy of the focus.
• What is the process and means by which the totality of the person is honored.

• Am Doing vs. Could Do
• Clarity vs. Certainty
• Challenge vs. Problem
• Consideration vs. Problem
• Choice vs. Decision
• Choice vs. Consequence Avoidance
• Desire vs. Value
• Means Something vs. Doesn't Matter
• Possibility vs. Pipedream
• Preference vs. Need
• Solution vs. Answer
• Vision vs. Pipedream
• Want vs. Could, Should, Ought
• Wants vs. Needs

• Am Doing is a function of action and activities that are presently and consistently sustained.
• Am Doing moves beyond thought, planning and/or preparation to actual movement which leads to accomplishment.
• Am Doing represents the "is" of reality.
• Could Do is the state of planning and preparation, which so engages the mind that one is led to believe that they are actually "doing" something.
• Could Do represents the "potential" of reality.
• Could Do leads to a high which rarely results in activity because the high is enough to sustain the ego need.

• Clarity is the absence of confusion which evolves from a three dimensional experience which requires very little mental work because it evolves from the being.
• Clarity is achieved through diligent and ruthless maintenance of the internal landscape.
• Clarity is easily sustained when it is supported by or supports the alignment of choice and decision, intention and action.
• Certainty is knowledge-based action undertaken to avoid or eliminate mistakes. In order to be certain, people will gather information, make an assessment and take action to prove the knowledge they have acquired.
• Certainty or an attempt to be certain is a crutch for internal weaknesses on the internal landscape which camouflage consequence avoidance.

• Challenge relates to an event, series of events, situation, circumstance or presence of people which call forth a higher level of energy in order to be resolved or eliminated.
• Some challenges are problems in that they pose a threat.
• Other challenges are opportunities for growth in that they call the individual beyond what is consciously know and seen into a deeper level of awareness and presence.
• The distinction between a challenge and a problem is the way it is viewed and addressed.
• Problem relates to the threat of physical, mental, or emotional harm which must be addressed or eliminated.
• If what is viewed as a problem results in some degree of harm, it is not a problem. It is a reality.
• All problems have solutions; therefore, an attempt to answer the call of a problem may not eliminate it.
• Problems need to be solved quickly and effectively. When a problem is not effectively addressed and solved, it threatens the entire being by draining energy, time and resources.

• Consideration relates to something which comes to conscious awareness which may or may not call for attention.
• Consideration is more like a blip on the screen. You know it is there but it poses no real threat or requirement.
• Acknowledgment generally suffices in addressing considerations.
• Problem relates to the threat of physical, mental, or emotional harm which must be addressed or eliminated.
• If what is viewed as a problem results in some degree of harm, it is not a problem. It is a reality.
• All problems have solutions; therefore, an attempt to answer the call of a problem may not eliminate it.
• Problems need to be solved quickly and effectively. When a problem is not effectively addressed and solved, it threatens the entire being by draining energy, time and resources.

• Choice is a conscious, heart-centered, three dimensional (mind, body, spirit) action which results in creation.
• When these elements are not present, choice is a haphazard approach to living which allows one to avoid responsibility and accountability.
• Although there may be many options, one may not always realize they are at the point of choice.
• Choice is a commitment which arises from a sense of self and recognition of free will in the process of reality creation.
• Decision is the mental or linear activity which aligns choice and action.
• When these elements are not present, a decision is the mental effort and energy expended to navigate the options present in order to achieve the most desirable outcome.

• Choice is a conscious, heart-centered, three dimensional (mind, body, spirit) action which results in creation.
• When these elements are not present, choice is a haphazard approach to living which allows one to avoid responsibility and accountability.
• Although there may be many options, one may not always realize they are at the point of choice.
• Choice is a commitment which arises from a sense of self and recognition of free will in the process of reality creation.
• Consequence Avoidance is a process of selecting action which will most likely result in the most comfortable or desirable outcome.
• Consequence Avoidance is not clear, conscious or heart-centered choice in that it is done to eliminate rather than create.

• Desire is a tool of conscious reality creation which evolves from vision and supports conscious choice.
• Desire advances and sustains the development of trust, honesty and vulnerability.
• Desire is a spiritual state of being in support of a vision rather than a need or want.
• Desire is a consciousness of one's authentic identity and a means of inner support of personal growth.
• Value relates to who the individual knows themselves to be and how their being is aligned with what is really important.
• Values encompass qualities, interests or aspects of life which have and continue to attract energy and attention within the individual.

• Means Something attaches meaning to unrelated events, past events and the possibility of more severe consequences than before rather than what is actually going on now.
• Events and consequences attached to current reality give rise to an exaggerated expectation of what will happen or could happen because of what has happened. There is an indication of fear and a healing opportunity.
• Doesn't Matter often refers to something that matters to someone else the client is attempting to please or gain the acceptance and/or approval of which is creating incongruence, upset, distraction or difficulty in consciousness.
• Doesn't Matter may also arise from pressing or recurring challenges that distract the client's energy and attention but offer no value of what truly matters to and for the client. In severe cases, may be an idea, role, responsibility, activity or event to which the client has pledged allegiance because it once mattered and, although it no longer has meaning, the client has guilt or resistence to releasing it.

• Possibility relates to an inspired opportunity to create or shift in order to realize a desire or stated intention.
• Possibility motivates the individual to take action or create a new course of action that holds their attention, focus and energy because it presents no possibility of failure or loss.
• Possibility is the opportunity to expand what is already present.
• Pipedream relates to mental and emotional attachment to something, someone or anything that fills a void.
• Pipedream is an escape from what is present driven by fear or discomfort on the internal landscape.
• Pipedream is a form of distraction grounded in illusions that are used to escape the responsibility of the conscious creation of reality.
• Often, a pipedream is sought in an attempt for the individual to gain some sense of self, meaning or value after comparing themselves to others.

• Preference relates to that which is most comfortable but not required or necessary.
• In most instances, a preference is a luxury called forward to support the maintenance of control and support of some internal or external paradigm.
• Preferences do not facilitate shift, growth or personal development. More often than not, they are an escape from doing what is actually required.
• Need relates to anything that is required to support maintenance or advancement of internal and external integrity.
• Needs generally relate to the provision or acquisition of food, clothing, shelter and resources that support the general well-being of the individual.
• Needs can rarely be compromised and generally encourage the presence of a demand when they are threatened.
• Until needs are met, one cannot afford the luxury of a preference.

• Solution is the process or action taken to stop a challenge from ever occurring again.
• Solutions address both what is occurring at the physical level of reality and the cause that gives rise to the presence of the situation.
• Most solutions are permanent because they require a shift of some type to occur.
• Answer relates to action taken to end a challenge.
• Answers handle the immediate problem, however, it does not guarantee that the same problem will not reoccur.
• Most answers effect a temporary change because they do not require any level of internal or external shift in the individual or physical environment.

• Vision is an internally generated picture of a clear outcome that is in alignment with all levels of the individual.
• A vision generally unfolds within and through consciousness rather than being something which comes to the individual from the outside.
• Vision provides a point of focus which calls the individual forward into action, behavior and stages of development which generate and require shifts.
• A vision almost always facilitates healing and growth at all levels of being.
• Pipedream relates to mental and emotional attachment to something, someone or anything that fills a void.
• Pipedream is an escape from what is present driven by fear or discomfort on the internal landscape.
• Pipedream is a form of distraction grounded in illusions that are used to escape the responsibility of the conscious creation of reality.
• Often, a pipedream is sought in an attempt for the individual to gain some sense of self, meaning or value after comparing themselves to others.

• Want relates to the temporary satisfaction of addiction, reaction, fantasy, whims or external expectation which often has no lasting or beneficial impact on long term intentions.
• Often the source of distraction is a diversion because it is generally not strong enough or powerful enough to cause or support taking action.
• Could, Should, and Ought are the outgrowths of judgments made in an attempt to satisfy or alleviate external demands or internal fears and discomfort.

• Want relates to the temporary satisfaction of addiction, reaction, fantasy, whims or external expectation which often has no lasting or beneficial impact on long term intentions.
• Often the source of distraction is a diversion because it is generally not strong enough or powerful enough to cause or support taking action.
• Need is a physical, mental or emotional requirement in support of the demands and perceptions of the ego.
• Often the cause of urgency that supports consequence avoidance rather than conscious choice.

• Approach vs. System
• Can do vs. Should do
• Create vs. Design
• Design vs. Plan
• Desire vs. Compulsion
• Effective vs. Efficient
• Request vs. Demand
• Shift vs. Behavior Change