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attraction theory
interpersonal attraction- form a relationship
physical attraction-attraction to physical appearance
social attraction- attracted to personality
tack- attracted to ability and dependability
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We are attracted by.....(3 things)
1) proximity
2) similarity
3) complementarity
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Uncertainty reduction theory
Theory suggesting that people are motivated to reduce their uncertianty about others
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Predicted outcome theory
theory predicting that we form relationships when we think the effort will be worth it
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Social exchange theory
theory perdicting that people seek to form and maintian relationships in which the beneifts outweigh the costs
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Comparison level
your realistic expectation of what you think you deserve from a relationship
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comparision level for alteratives
your assessment of how good your current realtionship is, compared with your other options
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Equity theory
a theory predicting that a good relationship is one in which your ratio of costs and reqards is equal to your partners
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Over benefited
state in which your relational rewards exceed your relational costs
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under benefited
the state in which your relational costs exceed your relational rewards
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Charateristics of friendships (5)
- 1) friendships are voluntary
- 2) friends are usually peers
- 3) friendships are governed by rules
- 4) friendships differ by sex
- 5) friendships have a life span
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what are some ways friendships are governed by rules
- keep secrets
- help when needed
- provide support
- respect friends privacy
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Rawlins six friendship stages
- 1) Role-limited interactions
- 2)Friendly relations
- 3) Moved toward friendship
- 4) Nascent friendship
- 5) Stabilized friendship
- 6) Waning friendship
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Role limited interactions (1)
- people meet and interact for the first time
- share little personal info
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friendly relation (2)
- convo becomes friendlier
- share personal sotries
- can be invite for friendship
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moved toward friendship (3)
- go places together
- moves toward friendship stage
- communication becomes more social and less bound by norms and rules
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nascent friendship (4)
- think of themselves as friends
- communication continues to become more personal
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stabilized friendship (5)
- friendship fully established
- trust is storng
- adjust attitudes and opinions more in line with each other
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waning friendship (6)
- decline of friendship
- more distant or terminate
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Componets of intimate relationships (4)
- 1) require deep commitment
- 2) foster interdependence
- 3) require continuous investment
- 4) spark dialectical tensions
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autonomy v.s. connecion
desire to be own person v.s. connection
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openness v.s. closeness
expressing feeling and thoughts v.s. not sharing
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predictability v.s. novelty
same pattern v.s. new experiences (keeping things fresh)
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Characteristics of romantic relationships (5)
1) some rr are exclusive; others arent
2) some rr are voluntary; others arent
3) some rr are based on love; others arent
4) some rr involve opposite-sex partners; others arent
5) some rr are permanent; others arent
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5 stages of forming a rr
- 1) Initaing
- 2) Experimenting
- 3) Intensifying
- 4) Integrating
- 5) Bonding
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Initating (1)
stage of relationship developement when people mee and interact for the first time
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Experimenting (2)
- partners have conversation to learn more about eachother
- small talk
- see you want to take relationship further
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Intensifying (3)
- People move from being acquaintances to being close friends
- Formal dating
- share intimate info
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Integrating (4)
- developement of a deep commitment
- sense that the relationship has its own idenitiy
- "WE"
- socalize with the same type of couples
- committed relationship has developed
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Bonding (5)
- partners make a public announcement of commitment
- EX. marriage
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Dissolution stages of a rr
- 1) DIfferentiating
- 2) Circumscribing
- 3) Stagnating
- 4) Avoiding
- 5) Terminating
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Differentiating (1)
partners being to see their differences as undesirable or annoying
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Circumscribing (2)
- decreased quality and quantity of communication behaviors
- spend more time apart
- when together they dont talk about problems
- "safe topics"
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Stagnating (3)
- couples barely communicate with each other
- "going through the motions"
- avoid talking about problems because you dont want conflict
- stay in this stage for a while
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Avoiding (4)
- partners create physical and emotional distance between each other
- ex. moving out of the house
- "I cant be around you right now"
- this stage can make or break realionship
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Terminating (5)
- relationship is to be offically over
- break up or divorce
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Family as a System (4)
- 1) Families are influenced by thir enviorment
- 2) Family members are interdependent
- 3) FAmilies are more than the sum of their parts
- 4) Family systems include smaller subsystems
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Communication Issues in families (4)
- 1) Roles
- 2) Rituals
- 3) Stories
- 4) Secrets
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Characteristics if Interpersonal Conflict (5)
- 1) its natural
- 2) has content, relational, and procedural deminsions
- 3) can be direct or indirect
- 4) can be harmful
- 5) can be benefical
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Sex and gender effect conflict
- Men are tought not to hurt women
- passive aggression
- Men are taught to engage in conflict directly
- Depand withdraw pattern
- women say "we need to talk"
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Culture effects conflict
- Individualistic v.s. collectivistic
- Depand withdraw Pattern
- High or low context cultures
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Different forms of power (5)
- 1) reward
- 2) coercive
- 3) referent
- 4) legitimate
- 5) expert
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reward power
power that derives fromt he ability to reward
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coercive power
power based on the ability to punish
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referent power
power that derives from ones attraction to or admiration for another
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legitimate power
power based on legitimate status or position
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expert power
power that derives from ones talent, experience, trainign, experience, or knowledge
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Managing Interpersonal Conflict
Problematic Behaviors during conflict
5 types of conflict styles
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Problematic Behaviors During conflict (4)
- 1) Critism
- 2) Contempt
- 3) Deffensiveness
- 4) Stonewalling
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Critism
the expression of complaints about another party
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Contempt
Expression of insults and attacks on another's self worth
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Defensiveness
Tendency to deny validity of criticisms directed at the self
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Stonewalling
behavior withdrawing from a convo of an interaction
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Strategies for managing conflict seccessfully (5)
- 1) Competing
- 2) Avoiding
- 3) Accommodating
- 4) compromising
- 5) Collaborating
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Competing
your goal is to win while other party loses
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avoiding
involves ignoring or falling to deal with the conflict
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Accomodating
gives in to the party's needs and desires while suboordinating one's own
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Compromising
Both parties give up something they want so both can recieve something they want
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collaborating
working toward a solution that meets both paries needs
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Emotion
bodys multidimensional response to an event that enhances or inhibits one's goals
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Mood
feeling often has no identifiable cause
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Joyful/ Affectionate emotions (4)
1) Happiness- contentment, pleasure, joy
2) Love- Caring for attracted to, commited to someone
3) Passion- secondary emotion consisting of joy, and surprise, excotement and attraction for another
4) Liking- positive over all evaluation of another person
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Hostile emotions (5)
1) Anger- emotional response to being wronged
2) Contempt- leeds you to feel you are better than someone else
3) Disgust- feeling of revulsion in reation to something offensive
4) Jealousy- existance or quality of an important relationship is being threatened by a third party
5) Envy- desire for something another person has
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Sad/ Anxious emotions (5)
1) Sadness- emotion feeling unhappy, sorrowful and discouraged usually as a result of some form of loss
2) Depression- physical illness involving faituge, weight loss, thoughts of suicide
3) Grief- Emotional proess of dealing with profound loss
4) Fear- mind and bodys reaction to percieved danger
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Nature of emotion (4)
- 1) Multidimensional
- 2) vary in valence and intensity
- 3) primary and secondary forms
- 4) meta- emotions
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Miltidimensional
Emotions are physiological
Emotions are cognitive
Emotions are behavioral
Emotions are social and cultural
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Valence
positivity or negativity of an emotion
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Intensity
How high or low the emotions is
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Primary emotions
distinct emotional experiences not consisting of combinations of other emotions
joy, sadness, anger, fear, suprise, and digust
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Secondary emotions
Emotions ocmpused of combinations of primary emotions
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Meta- emotion
emotion about emotion
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Display Rules- Definition
unwritten codes that govern the ways people manage and express emotions
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Display Rules (5)
- 1) Intensification
- 2) De- intensification
- 3) Simulation
- 4) Inhibition
- 5) Masking
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Intensification
exaggerating emotion to appear as though you are experiencing it more intensity than you are
acting as though youre furious when youre only mildly annoyed
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De-intensification
downplaying an wmotion to appear as though you are experiencing it less intensly than you are
acting as though youre mildly annoyed when you are actually furious
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Simulation
acting as though youre feeling an emotion that you actually arent experiencing
acting as though youre fuerious when you indifferent
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Inhibition
acting as though youre indifferent or emotionless when youre actually experiencing an emotion
acthing as though you are indifferent when you are actually furious
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Masking
expressing one emotion when you are feeling another
acting as though youre furious when youre actually sad
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Emotional Contagion
tendency to minic the emotional experiences and expressions of another
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Emotional Intilligence
ability to percieve and understand emotions, use emotions to facillitate thuoght, and manage emotions constructively
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