Test 3

• One girl was getting married and wanted real mother to walk her down the aisle, not sepmother, no acceptance
• Main Points involve the conflict between what powers to give to mom vs stepmom and how it will come across when she divies the powers.

• Self Disclosure-over disclosure in the wrong way...# of sexual partners revealed in a group
• Relational Dialectics-togetherness, protective (didn't talk about this until party), More Predictability, No Gender roles.
• Relationship initiated at work

Women feel more satisfied when they talk about with the person about the relationship compared to the guy. Women report more satisfaction in a relationship than guys.

• (@ age 35) Her father was not her biological father.
• She was angry at her parents for being lied to. For making her fit into the family mold she was not made for. For figuring out a lie of her true self, because of her biology.

• Expectation of Reciprocity- Women friendship/ men heirarchy
• Interpretive Competence-become harch critics of each other
• Message competence- Women unhappy with communication/ Men unhappy with action (no emot)
• Deep Talk vs Small Talk- Women deep or mundant/men-silence, level of communication

• Intimcacy of relationship is dependent upon the communication. Verbal communication is used so that the message isn't easily mixed
• Context-sensitive is adaptive to relationship, 1. Not all relationships have to be close or intimatie to be fullfilling. 2.You can accomplish intimacy in diverse ways.

• Colonial Period
• Household changes
• Rank and Patriarchy
• Code of Conduct
• Sex, love, and marriage
• Concept of Identity
• Industrial Period
• Social Change and Anxiety
• Home
• Rudeness and Civility
• Sex Roles and Personal Identity
• Love, Desires, and Romance
• Modern Period
• Mass consumption and American Dream
• Home and Family Values
• Personality and Self-expression
• Sex and Self-Discovery

• Prejudice-preconcieved notions about a particular group
• Ethnocentrism-belief that your culture is superior to another
• Assumed similarity

• AAVE are emotional-AE hide feelings
• Call and Response Pattern-AAVE verbal and nonverbal interaction between speaker and listern
• Regional and class differences-heirarchys values between the classes

• Locus of control-control vs. constraint
• action orientation- doing vs. being
• attitude toward time- structure vs. relative
• connection towards others- individualism vs. collectivism
• communication style- low context vs. high context
• power distance- low power vs. high power

differences in the ways people within cultures view the world and thier place in it.

set of values, beliefs, norms, cutoms, rules, and codes that are socially define groups of people binding them to one another and giving them a sense of commonality.

• all channel-everyone interacts with one another
• wheel- one central person
• chain-info. is passed form person to person
• grapevine-informal flow

participating in communicaiton networkks, by storiesand narratives, rituals and practices

Organizational Culture- a system of shared meanings and beliefs expressed through symbolic forms such as rituals stories and myths which function to hold a group of people together.

• THIRD PLACE:
• 1 Place of nutral activity
• 2 Patrons have = status
• 3 Convo is Dominate activity
• 4 Accessibility and Walkable
• 5 Regualr Patrons
• 6 Unimpressive Decor
• 7 Playful Mood
• 8 Home Away From Home

• Appropriate Roles and Scripts
• Respect for eachother
• Enable eachother to achieve practical goals
• Allow some room for expressive behaviors

• Cyclic altern-cycles of togetherness and space
• Topical Segmentation- autonomy in some areas
• Moderation- Compromise
• Disqualification-Indirectly manage tensions
• Reframing-transforms issues to different level of meaning

• Expressive vs protective (Openess vs privacy)
• Autonamy vs togetherness (space vs together time)
• Novelty vs predictability (newness vs routine)
• Masculinity vs feminity (Gender roles)

• Sociological or Incidental Ones-You have to see each other
• Other pre-interaction cues- see how they interact with others
• Costs and Rewards- Cost= stop, reward=continue

• Romantic Couples
• Friendships
• Family Members

a unique bond created by two people through some combination of higly interdependent actions, individualized rules, and personal disclosure, and viewed by both parties as relativity affectionate, intrinsically rewarding, and irreplaceable.

• Stressful contact with outside sources
• Illness or Death
• Divorce or Seperation

True

• Democratic
• Colonial Era-Godly
• 19th Cent-Democratic
• 20th Cent-Compationate
• Modern-No Definition

• Traditional Couples-interdependent, conventional marriage views, conflict regularly
• Seperate couples- autonomour, conservative marriage views, avoid conflict
• Independent Couples-Nonconventional marriage views, moderatly interdependent, highest self disclosure, very expressive, don't avoid conflict
• Seperate/traditional Couples- most distinct, conventional sex roles, little self-disclosure, high marital satisfaction, question little of the other

• Husband-Wife-relationship without kids
• Parent-Child-Mutual socialization,care+discipline +love
• Siblings-relationship-age, gender, Stages of Devel

• Anticipation of Change-Knowing what is coming
• Maintain Adaptability-flexability allows for change
• Encourage Coesieveness- have someone to lean on
• Build Social Networks-Community can help

• Olsen and McCubbin's Family Life Cycle
• Stage 1- Young Marriage w/o kids
• Stage 2- Family with Preschoolers
• Stage 3-Family with Schoolage Kids
• Stage 4- Family with Adolescents
• Stage 5-Launching Famiy

• RULES OF WHO PARTICIPATES AND HOW
• Family within Family
• Outsiders within Family
• Open Family-members come and go
• Closed Family-play together, stay together

• Centralized Network-Specific Path
• Chain- One person, pass 1, pass 1, pass 1
• Wheel- One person= all other
• Decentralized Network- all over
• All Channel-everyone talks to everyone

• Managing Impending Change or freetime
• TURNER STYLE OF DECISION MAKING
• Consesus-everyone agrees
• Accomodation-less power give up power to majority
• Defact-Decision is made by outside forces

• (Parent vs Child)
• Positional Structure- No Feedback, parent makes final decision
• Person Oriented Structure- Parent consults child on decisions

• Power-Authority
• Decision Making
• Interaction Network

• Intrinsic Rewards-Love, happiness
• Extrinsic Rewards- Shelter, food, clothes, confidant
• Knowledge of past generations and past lifetimes

A network of people who live together over a long period of time bound by ties of marriage, blood or commitment, legal or otherwise

• Reward- You can give---------------------Listening
• Coersive- you can take away-------------Time
• Expert-knowledge power-----------------Upperclass
• Referent-if they like you------------------Idol
• Legitimate-role or titles you hold--------Boss

• Integration-Charm, flattery
• Intimidation- Fear, threats
• Self-Promotion- using expert power over other
• Exemplification- express qualities you know others like
• Supplication-acting defenseless

• Cognitive Dissonance Theory- The day you think things are either consistant or disonance.
• Consistant- Two thought work together
• I like warm weather. I like August
• Dissonance- two thoughts disagree with each other
• I like warm weather. I like December

• Classical Conditioning- IF you learn to react to a stimulus then you can learn to react similarly to other stimuli
• Operant Conditioning- You keep doing things that you are rewarded for and you don't do thinks you ar punished for
• Social Learning- You see someonedoing something and you do or don't do the same

• Learning Theory-people act to maximize rewards and minimize costs- (Social exchange theory)
• Disonance Theory-people like consistency,don't like change
• Value Theory-Need for identity, need to feel of some

• Positive face- you are looking for approval by others, so influence can tear down a positive face when having influence over you, or you look good if you are the influencer.
• Negative Face - remaining unrestrained and autonomous- if someone has influence you have lost your freedom and you negative face
• Psychological Reactance - defensive or resistant response when you discover someone is trying to control or have influence over you

• 1.Directives-told exactly what you want done
• (parent, boss, teacher)
• 2. Compliance- indirectly seeking an outcome
• (guilt trips, stratagie)
• 3. Persuasion-using arguments to reason and get what we want done, done

• Any communication act that affects the attituded or behaviors of others
• Intentionally-guilt trips, boss around
• Unintentionally-celebraties, imitating hero